Please don’t do this. This is just misgendering by default. The vast majority of people are exactly the gender they appear to be on the surface, and if they aren’t, they’ll let you know. I’ve only known one person who wasn’t the gender they appeared (a very masculine-presenting enby), and they weren’t offended at all when I misgendered them at first; they corrected me, I apologized, and that was the end of it.
However, if you call the wrong clearly-masculine “alpha male” or clearly-feminine “queen bitch” they/them, you’re likely to get a violent reaction.
I completely agree. Gendered pronouns are not helpful and at this point only confuse things. I’m just glad English doesn’t have gendered nouns, too, like Latin-based languages.
Anyway, the fact is that they/them has become “gendered” in the sense that it’s now a preferred pronoun for a lot of people, mostly androgynous enbies, so its implicit meaning has changed. Sure, it’s still used as a non-gendered pronoun for hypothetical people, but when used for a real, known person, it has the same implication as he/him or she/her - that they appear to be a certain gender, enby in this case.
I’m a clearly masculine person - I’ve got a beard and I wear masculine clothes. I personally wouldn’t be offended, but I would think it very odd if someone saw me and thought they/them was an appropriate pronoun for me. If masculinity was as important to me as it is to most men, I could see myself getting offended at someone implying that I appear androgynous. Same as if an enby was referred to as he/him or she/her. Cisfolk’s emotions are just as valid as valid as enbies’.
English is my primary language, so yes, I’m aware of the historical use of they/them as a non-gendered pronoun for hypothetical people.
I’m also aware of the fluid nature of language. I’m still salty about “literally” becoming its own antonym, but I have to accept it because it’s now part of English.
That being said, it’s never been socially acceptable to use they/them for a known person of a binary gender, and I’d argue that it’s even less acceptable now, thanks to the common adoption of they/them as a personal pronoun for known persons of nonbinary gender.
It’d be much less confusing if there was an entirely new pronoun for enbies. Or, better yet, if there were never any gendered pronouns to begin with. But this is the world we live in, and we all have to find the best way to navigate our own paths without kicking up dirt onto others’.
The Biden administration may not be directly responsible, but just like Trump, his endorsement of racism and fascism emboldens the racists and fascists to act more openly.
The reason why I think obesity is morally wrong and should be illegal is because obesity is putting up a big burden on our health care system. There are alot of nurses who get injured on the job because they had to move a 300lb morbidly obese person to the other room. Which is morally wrong because they’re injurying nurses...
There’s no doubt that obesity is nothing but bad for one’s health, but your opinion on the matter is irrelevant. Obesity is a measurable state, and a man simply not having visible abs is not necessarily obese, or even overweight.
Honestly, I wouldn’t be the least bit surprised if, in the inevitable Israel Nuremberg Trials, it comes out that the Israeli government intentionally instigated or even carried out the October 7 attack in order to generate sympathy and as a pretext for its genocide.
What an inane question. Of course they aren’t saying all Jews are racist. They’re saying that the people in charge of Israel are deeply racist. They also happen to be Jewish, but that isn’t really a factor.
My old job doing systems design for a predatory mobile game. I quit that job, moved half a state away, and got a job that pays half as much in a company with integrity. Best decision of my life.
I feel like I do this a lot with podcasts. I started watching the Gus and Eddy podcast and finished it about a month before the last episode was released for example....
Toys-to-life video games. I went on a Skylanders spending spree less than a year before it officially died. $5-$15 figurines got sold at garage sales for $0.25-$3 each.
I had tons of fun getting into it and I was young enough that I could afford to waste the money, so I regret nothing.
The toys-to-life trend ended, as it wasn’t making enough money. The games remain playable, but they have no support and are old enough they they require hardware that I no longer have.
The important distinction, I believe, is that Kai Winn and Dukat were villains, characters designed to be hated. Wesley was supposed to be a precocious scamp, bringing levity and juvenility to an otherwise dry and mature crew, but just ended up being… Wesley.
Hello! I’ve been searching for a reddit alternative, and yes, I’ve picked Lemmy and Raddle, but here’s the thing. My morbid curiosity is perked up, and a part of me wants to join the “free speech” alternatives, like Saidit, Poal, etc. What’s wrong with me that I want to join toxic places? I mean, yes I’ll find a...
This is the right answer. Hatred just breeds more hatred. If you approach with love and understanding (or at least a desire to understand), you’ll have a much better chance of changing hearts and minds. Try to meet in the middle and you might be able to point them in the right direction.
the only reason Biden hasn’t decriminalized cannabis is because he’s not a dictator and has no control over government agencies like HHS.
The only reason Biden hasn’t decriminalized cannabis is because it keeps (mostly ethnic minority) people in jails, and having full jails is very profitable.
Pronouns and tribal affiliations are now forbidden in South Dakota public university employee emails (apnews.com)
A new South Dakota Board of Regents policy keeps employees from including their gender pronouns in school email signatures and other correspondence.
Until I got a pair, I always thought orthopaedic shoes were nonsense.
Now I stand corrected.
Biden says pro-Gaza student protesters ‘voices should be heard’ in Morehouse speech (www.independent.co.uk)
18+ Obesity is morally wrong and should be illegal in my opinion
The reason why I think obesity is morally wrong and should be illegal is because obesity is putting up a big burden on our health care system. There are alot of nurses who get injured on the job because they had to move a 300lb morbidly obese person to the other room. Which is morally wrong because they’re injurying nurses...
Xbox Exec Provides Reasoning Behind Bethesda Studio Closures (www.purexbox.com)
“I’m sharing changes we are making to our Bethesda teams”....
'This is a Crime Ahainst Humanity': 600,000 Children in Line of Fire as IDF Moves on Rafah (therealnews.com)
There are songs we've gone our whole lives without hearing and the best song we've ever heard might still be out there.
4 out of 5 dentists recommend ______
What's a job you couldn't get paid enough to do?
What did you get into as it was dying or otherwise on its way out?
I feel like I do this a lot with podcasts. I started watching the Gus and Eddy podcast and finished it about a month before the last episode was released for example....
Wil Wheaton Blames One Scene For Everyone Hating Wesley Crusher (www.giantfreakinrobot.com)
Wesley Crusher is right up there with Scrappy Doo and Poochie as far as hated fictional characters, and Wil Wheaton knows exactly why.
What's your Sci-Fi unpopular opinion? Part II
It's a slightly click-baity title, but as we're still generating more content for our magazines, this one included, why not?...
The swimming pool will delay the reopening date due to _________
Should I join "free speech" alternatives?
Hello! I’ve been searching for a reddit alternative, and yes, I’ve picked Lemmy and Raddle, but here’s the thing. My morbid curiosity is perked up, and a part of me wants to join the “free speech” alternatives, like Saidit, Poal, etc. What’s wrong with me that I want to join toxic places? I mean, yes I’ll find a...
Guess the Episode [Easy] (lemmy.world)
1 point for the episode/main plot. 1 point for the joke/scene....
White House bolsters transgender health protections, rolls back Trump admin rule (thehill.com)
Why should you never play poker in the savannah?
There’s too many cheetahs.
[SOLVED] Paul Revere by Beastie Boys [Hip-Hop] (lemmy.world)
This post was solved by @lemonmelon, the song is “Paul Revere” (1986) by the Beastie Boys....