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JoanGrey

@JoanGrey@romancelandia.club

Joan Grey is your friendly, neighborhood wordsmith. She can be found working outside with her flock of nutty hens, inside fondling yarn and knitting, or sitting in front of computer screens; but mostly she's found trapped underneath cats, trying desperately to reach her coffee cup.

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JoanGrey, to random
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Advice I don't see often? Hmm.

Don't get attached to your writing. It's just words.

They might be words that are scraped from your soul, but ultimately, they're NOT YOU.

This means you should be able to separate critique of your words/writing/art from CRITICISM of your SELF.

Your writing will be stronger for the distance, and so will your psyche.

Also, stop sitting like a shrimp (stand up, twist around), have some water, and go pee.

JoanGrey, to random
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😜

What books could I write better?

You don't have time for me to give you the full list. SO MANY.

The fact that I can write better than 'them' is the reason I'm a published writer at all.

I won't name names, because that's rude (and the writing world is small, yo), but... trust me. There's some awful writing out there and it's NOT MINE.

sharonecathcart, to random
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#WritersCoffeeClub May Day 18

Have you written sections where the action occurs against the clock? How did you do it?

I wrote a book set in #pompeii

'Nuf said. ;-)

#indieauthor #pompeiifire #bookstodon

JoanGrey,
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@sharonecathcart

.... sooooo, a sense of impending doom that the characters don't feel?

Yikes - very effective!

herhandsmyhands, to bookstodon
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Covers have a purpose: they signal the genre within.

A cartoon cover of two people dressed casually for camping does not--and I cannot stress this enough--signal EROTICA to anyone.

Holy jumping WHAT THE HELL, , WHAT THE ACTUAL HELL--you are setting that book (and its author) up to fail.

@romancelandia @bookstodon

JoanGrey,
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@herhandsmyhands @romancelandia @bookstodon

The vector illo style isn't helping this at all. If you told me this was NA hiking/college romance, with fade to black closed-door intimacy, I'd be more willing to believe it than if you handed this to me and said it's erotica. Oof.

JoanGrey, to random
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My MCs mostly live in decent conditions, in decent places.

Mostly, I write escapism - happy stories about good things happening. I don't mind reading other things, but right now I can barely handle much more than Cute Bunnies Have To Wait Five Extra Minutes For A Snack. I'm wiped out with bad stuff.

herhandsmyhands, to bookstodon
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JoanGrey,
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@herhandsmyhands @romancelandia @bookstodon

You're not having any luck with books recently, are you? I'm so sorry!

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JoanGrey,
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Hmmm, that sounds dreary.

MagentaRocks, to books
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This never occurred to me. I read anytime throughout the day - whenever it strikes the mood. I think reading is good for you, no matter the time of day.

Anybody else feel the same as the writer of the opinion piece?

@bookstodon

Opinion
I’m retired, and I still won’t let myself read in the daytime. Why not?

Gift Link:

https://wapo.st/4aG52cI

JoanGrey,
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@MagentaRocks @bookstodon

Huuuh. I read all the time. I read while I eat. I read while I wait for the water to boil while I'm cooking. I read literally whenever I have a free second.

herhandsmyhands, to USpolitics
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@romancelandia

A blog post by a long-time Romancelandia member, Lori Green, inspired a rant (heed thee the content warnings)

https://herhandsmyhands.wordpress.com/2024/03/24/wealth-greed-bodily-autonomy-control/

JoanGrey,
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@herhandsmyhands @romancelandia

I'm in a discord server for people using a specific Planning and Organizing system.

One of the repeated issues people (women) have is that their partners (husbands) feel personally rejected when the women say that they are working at a specific time and can't be interrupted.

Their men have had temper tantrums and accused them of deliberately setting out to HURT them simply because they've said that from 2-4 every day, they're working on their novel.

JoanGrey,
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@herhandsmyhands @romancelandia

One of the women's husband told her when it was okay for her to have her own working time and he still resented her and it.

The tone of the discussion is the same as one where people are talking about how to get a toddler to behave.

It's eyewatering and appalling.

(My husband, when I mentioned it, looked at me like I was high and said, If you're working, I'll ignore you. I'll scratch on the door when you're done, because it'll be funny to be like the cats.)

herhandsmyhands, to romancelandia
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@romancelandia

For this month's , I read Michelle Willingham's Unlaced by the Outlaw. It didn't go well.

https://herhandsmyhands.wordpress.com/2024/03/20/unlaced-by-the-outlaw-by-michelle-willingham/

JoanGrey,
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@herhandsmyhands @romancelandia

This book sounds catastrophically bad, wow.

herhandsmyhands, to romancelandia
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@romancelandia

It was a rough night here at casa aztec, but Nightmare is feeling much improved right now (although she absolutely hates the cone, and who could blame her?)

https://herhandsmyhands.wordpress.com/2024/03/16/a-little-nightmare/

JoanGrey,
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@herhandsmyhands @romancelandia

Ohhh, sweetie. What a good baby.

Give her pets (soft, gentle) from me. <3 <3 <3

JoanGrey, to random
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I use colloquialisms in speech, but I'm much less likely to use them in 'narration'.

They're a great way to show who a character is and where they're from.

seanpatrickphd, to random
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2/24 Has reader feedback ever changed the way you write?

Yes, certainly. One thing I have come to appreciate is that most people have a relatively short attention span and need there to be action and direct involvement of the principal characters as soon as possible. My writing tends to wander, most of the people who have read my querying WIP say the first chapter is boring but it gets better later on. Well, I haven't written any more chapters like that first one since.

JoanGrey,
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@seanpatrickphd

Yeah, some genres will take a slower start and some need more active In-Media-Res. I find that it can be useful to give readers a snappy first scene, and then I can go back to something more world-buildy for the second half of the first chapter.

JoanGrey,
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@seanpatrickphd

'About to be hanged' is certainly a gripping start, yes. Yikes.

Uh. I assume they made it, or is it a ghost story?

JoanGrey, to romancelandia
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@romancelandia
Okay. I want to write some fun, fast novellae and I'm thinking of mafia romances. Only, I don't want to write the Dark Romance tropes (I, uh, really don't like them), and I do want to write queer romances.

It's the mafia part that holding me up, I think. Are queer mafia romances popular? If I'm going against type by writing queer mafia romance, will I get away with also not writing the Dark tropes?

What if I change to vampires?

1/?

JoanGrey,
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@romancelandia

Vampires can have the same sort of... in-group/out-group thing, right? And inherent, leashed violence (I'm aiming at something of the Alpha trope - protective and willing to be aggro about it.)

I've got some fun prompts to work with, but really I mostly want someone to tell me that this won't be a total waste of time.

People still like vampires, right?

JoanGrey, to romancelandia
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@romancelandia

I'm in the market for mafia (or thriller?) romances that don't lean into the dark/abusive romance tropes. Het or queer are both welcome.

(I'm trying this again, since I didn't tag it well last time.)

JoanGrey, to random
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I'm in the market for mafia romances that DON'T lean into the dark/abusive tropes. Het or queer are both great.

Any suggestions?

JoanGrey, to random
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Do I feel my characters' emotions?

Hmm. Yes and no? I don't cry while I write, but I'm not 'just a reporter'.

... if that makes sense.

I do sink into the story-world while I write, though, which makes it jarring when my blasted cat punches me in the face to get attention.

JoanGrey, to random
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Oh god, the software question. :deep sigh:

I outline and worldbuild in Scrivener. And on paper notecards, because I'm weird and old.

I do the actual words-in-pixels in Word.

I format in Affinity Publisher (for paper books) and Serif (for ebooks).

I make covers in Affinity Photo.

I make coffee in a big coffee maker, and if I want just a single cup, I use my trusty Aeropress.

I use MusicBee to play music on my computer, and listen to podfic on my phone with Musicolet.

seanpatrickphd, (edited ) to random
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I'm currently looking for employment in data scientist or similar ML engineering roles.

I have a Ph.D. in computational neuroscience (reinforcement learning), and a B.S. in electrical and computer engineering. My recent industry experience is in using GP models for HVAC optimization. Most comfortable in Python but also capable in C/C++, Java, and MATLAB. Core competencies include signal processing, technical writing.

Boston/Providence area or remote preferred.

JoanGrey,
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@seanpatrickphd

Are you willing to work for a company like BAE?

JoanGrey,
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@seanpatrickphd

BAE is absolutely hiring and in your area (Source: my husband works there)

Check them out online, see if they're doing things you'd be interested in working on. If they are, I can see if my husband would have some time to chat (online in text, omg, not a live phone call, no worries) and answer questions.

JoanGrey,
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@seanpatrickphd

You're very welcome. Finding work is such a pain.

skaeth, to books
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What are your thoughts on DNF (Did Not Finish)-ing books? Do you feel guilty about it? Do you worry you missed out on something? Or are you confident in dropping a book and reaching for the next one?

At what point are you most likely to DNF, if ever? What sorts of things cause you to DNF?

My friend, book blogger Kriti, was musing on these questions a while back, and it sparked this new post: https://armedwithabook.com/dealing-with-dnf-the-practice-of-did-not-finish/

@bookstodon
#Bookstodon #Books #ReadingCommunity #BookBloggers #AmReading

JoanGrey,
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@skaeth @bookstodon

I DNF with glee and abandon. I've DNFed on the first page. If I can tell that I don't want to be in a character's head, there's no earthly reason why I should stay there.

Reading is (for me) supposed to be fun. It's not fun if I'm hating every second of what I'm reading.

If I get bored, I'll just... wander off and find something I like better.

No harm, no foul.

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