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lady_scarecrow

@lady_scarecrow@lemmy.blahaj.zone

Trans woman and amateur writer.
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It’s depressing that the original one was changed in the first place – our existence can’t even be acknowledged in a video game without people collectively freaking out… Well, at least they fixed it now.

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Thank you!

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Thank you for your kind words.

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My female friends accepted me as one of them immediately, no questions asked. Nowadays I’d say anything less than that is disrespectful, but back then it meant the world to me.

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I remember you shared the letter here. I’m glad to know her initial reaction was good. Things won’t always go smoothly between you, but as long as she’s trying to understand and support you, it’ll be alright. Good luck on your journey!

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I’m in awe that so much prejudice can fit in so few words.

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I did, and he turned me down. We’re still good friends to this day though, so it wasn’t a bad ending either.

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Also, the fact that I went “I wonder what would happen if I were a girl” instead of “I wonder what would happen if he wasn’t straight” is quite telling

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?

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Oh, I see! Thank you

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I haven’t done electrolysis myself, only laser, but as far as I know, with electrolysis you have to run a needle through each hair individually, while laser can cover a large area at once. I’ve heard many people do laser first to massively reduce the amount of hair per area, then electrolysis to kill off the few remaining hairs.

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There’s still some progress to be had and things I’d like to work on, but I’m so, so much better off now than when I started, both physically and mentally, it’s honestly unreal

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A manga called Love me for who I am.

The main character is non-binary but presents in a feminine way, and they’re recruited by a classmate to work on a maid cafe. The story is very sincere, and shows many of the struggles we face. I’ve read it pretty early on my transition and related hard to many of the characters. On that note, there’s so many colors of the rainbow in there – trans women, cross-dressing cis guys, gay guys, a lesbian woman, and of course the non-binary protagonist. It’s a great story.

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I wonder why you picked that username

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It’s been a while since I’ve read it so I don’t remember that school festival thing. I do remember the story becomes a lot more serious towards the end, with Mogumo’s family and all, but I like it that way. There were problems Mogumo was running from that had to be solved before one could say the story was finished.

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Thanks for linking that transreads.org site, it seems very interesting.

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Actually, I’ve written this many years ago. This is pretty good advice though.

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I wasn’t expecting to get a poem back! And it’s a really good one too. Thank you <3

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Thank you! To be honest, I’m a bit surprised that a guy would like this poem, though.

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Alright, listen.

I understand you’re considering starting HRT, and that’s a big decision, so it’s only natural you have fears and doubts. It’s also natural to seek advice and confirmation from people who have already been through this process.

You ask what it was like when we decided to do it. I believe you want to know what it feels like – what is the feeling we had when we were certain, when we knew for sure that this is what we wanted. Well, allow me tell you.

That feeling doesn’t exist.

I also had doubts when I started. But I started anyway, because, given what I knew at the time, I believed it was the right choice. Now I can tell you that starting HRT is the best thing I’ve ever done – but this is something I can only tell you in hindsight.

Your post is very similar to several ones I have seen from questioning people asking what it feels like to know you’re trans, or what was the moment when you figured it out. They seem to believe they can’t act on their feelings until they’re 100% sure. They seem to believe there is a magic moment when all doubts disappear. Well, there isn’t.

Mind you, I’m not telling you to start right away either – it’s perfectly fine to take your time and think it through. Hell, I’m not even telling you to start at all. You’re the only one who can tell if this is right for you. It’s a frustrating answer, I know, but it’s the only honest one I can give you.

I hope this doesn’t come across as rude, but I’m honestly tired of seeing trans people riddled with imposter syndrome, second-guessing every step they take, and holding themselves to an unrealistic standard of being absolutely certain of everything. You will always have doubts. Don’t let them paralyze you.

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