You have to get honest and transparent with yourself and that begins with introspection and reflection.
Mind map your current thoughts/beliefs - actions/non-actions and results/non-results relative to your goals. See pic
When you look at your T-A-R chains (thoughts that beget actions creating results), consider all your intentions relative to your goals (ie: enjoy gourmet food and lose weight, or stay disengaged at work and get a promotion), make conscious decisions on which are in conflict and need to be balanced/culled/added.