Wedding Confusion

PopcornPrincess, 2 months ago

I’d bounce ideas off your soon-to-be spouse. Or you could have multiple outfits. A more formal attire for the ceremony and something more relaxed for the reception. Overall comfort matters. Congrats to you and yours.

niucllos, 2 months ago (edited 2 months ago)

What time is the bulk of the wedding/event? Tux/dinner jacket should really only be worn in the evening and will look a bit out of place in daylight along with being pretty hot and sweat-trapping due to the denser material and generally dark colors.

I think the linen 3-piece suit is a great suggestion, but if you’re worried about wrinkles then a light-weight wool or wool-silk blend will also look great in summer and keep you cooler. For color, lighter colors are a bit less formal but more summery and feel cooler so maybe tan, khaki, or light warm-toned gray? And a matched 3-piece would bring the formality right back up.

Jilanico, 2 months ago

Mismatched/spezzato is typically considered informal.

Squizzy, 2 months ago

Yeah but I am seeing it very common where I am for weddings. A three piece suit but mismatch waistcoat or jacket. I prefer jacket because you look together with the jacket off then.

morphballganon, 2 months ago

Do you have groomsmen? My instinct is that your attire should be adjacent but not the same as theirs. Just one notch higher in formality/complexity, with a different color accent.

It doesn’t need to be the most comfortable, but it shouldn’t be uncomfortable. You should be able to dance in it.

Squizzy, 2 months ago

Yes, I am thinking they can go full three piece of one colour where I mismatch or where I do tux jacket they don’t

Twinkletoes, 2 months ago

A three piece linen suit

slightperil, 2 months ago

My wife is a tailor and makes these for summer weddings

Squizzy, 2 months ago

And where do I land in terms of colour/style?

I am worried about linen because it wrinkly.

Please_Do_Not, 2 months ago

Quick question first, how would you describe your body type? And how do you like your suits cut? I think those affect what you want to be wearing when the jacket comes off, with great options for all types and preferences.

Squizzy, 2 months ago

I am 187cm, 100kg with a 34 leg. Bigger than I would like to be but not too bad. I have a strong build but am planning to lose bulk before the wedding.

Please_Do_Not, 2 months ago (edited 2 months ago)

You’re definitely within the range for a tightly/well-tailored shirt as is then. In my opinion, if you can pull it off, a well tailored and flattering white shirt (plus dark suspenders), it’s a better flex and look than a waistcoat for under a suit jacket.

Making a classic white shirt look perfect is harder than a waistcoat, and in men’s style, I think doing something classic uniquely well is better than doing something that is a little unique normally well. Solid white with a bit of texture, fit perfectly with pants that do the same, there’s a reason it’s such a classic, with the ability to add a twist between the material and your suspenders. And then because it’s such a classic, it’s that much more impressive if you can make it your own and do it to its best degree.

Last benefit is you can guarantee it’ll be timeless. You’ll wanna look at these photos forever, and if certain looks or patterns go out of style, you can guarantee that a solid shirt that fits perfectly never will.