Loving and supportive partners would already know everything about their kids. These people are just mad that they are not loving and supportive, and now are punishing the school for filling that role.
“My children are my property and NOT humans. They are my playthings to do with as I wish, and nothing more. Any attempt to treat them or refer to them as individuals, humans, or anything more than my ‘belongings’ violate my God given property rights”
Let me be clear in saying I think the school did the moral and sensible thing. And yes, the parents are fucking monsters. But the age range of the child got me thinking.
When I was young, had I been exposed to homosexuality or the idea of transsexuality, there were times I might have identified as such. Played girl stuff with girls, hated sports, had far fewer boy than girlfriends, stuff like that.
There was a time when I thought maybe it would have been better to have been born a girl instead, felt more “right”. I could relate to girls my age far more so than the guys. LOL, figured I must have been a woman in a past life.
Late teens, I even had a few gay fantasies, though I wouldn’t have been turned on by another guy IRL. Never experimented, though I’ve always been a horn dog.
In the end, I turned out strongly heterosexual and more than happy with my masculinity. So is it possible some young people are merely trying out options? Lord knows we all tried different ideas growing up. Some people swapped them like clothes.
But here’s the crux of the matter; Who gives a shit? Biology and brains are going to work out one way or another. No one chooses attraction or gender, it just is. Leave them alone and they’ll work it out eventually.
If either of my small kids told me they might be gay or trans, I’d say, “Cool. What makes you think that?” Have a talk, maybe share some of my experiences above. In any case just them know that we grow and change, maybe you’re gay or trans, you’ll work it out and those sorts of things aren’t “bad” or harmful.
Transsexuality is one thing I have zero experience with. Not even any friends. I’d want to identify it for certain so my child could get hormone treatments ASAP. But what does that look like IRL? Again, there were times when I felt like I would be more comfortable in a woman’s body, but for me, that was just youthful confusion. Love to hear from actual trans people, not merely allies like myself.
Hey! Actual trans person. I want to start by saying please use Transgender, not transexual. It’s a dysphoria around gender and the outdated transexual term ties it to sexuality. In reality, those are very different, even if they may be closely associated in general thought.
Some of what you are describing you did when you were younger was exploring your gender. I personally think that’s great, and I think everyone should at least ask themselves how they feel about their identity and try things out if they find themselves curious. Like you, they might not find that they are trans and that’s ok! That actually happens a lot, though most cis folks don’t tend to question or think about their gender much.
As for me, when I was a kid, I just felt wrong whenever I was strongly gendered as male. I felt how you feel about your masculinity when I could get away with feminine choices. The Internet was an escape where I could be anonymous and I clung to it since it let me be more myself. If you’d like to learn more or learn signs that you or others might be experiencing gender dysphoria, I highly recommend genderdysphoria.fyi.
Right at the start of puberty we need to be really fucking careful letting kids decide their gender. As an atheist and a skeptic I remain skeptical of early transitioning.
Yes, because referring to a child by the name and pronouns they have requested will irreparably damage them. /s
It has been proven time and again, study after study, that acceptance and support for trans people of all ages improves their quality of life. In this case simply using the requested pronouns and name can have only positive effects on the child's life. Further gender affirming care has also been proven safe and effective. Hormones are generally not prescribed until after 16, and until then puberty blockers are proven to be both effective and completely reversible and 100% safe. They have been regularly prescribed to cis-children to manage conditions such as precocious puberty for decades. Their application to treat gender dysphoria is no different.
There is no good reason to withhold gender affirming care from a child that is showing signs of dysphoria. Witholding treatment only leads to greater risks of selfharm or suicide.
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