I got this from a few friends lol. Apparently, it’s pretty obvious that I’m autistic, but I had absolutely no self-awareness. I have a natural tendency to choose other autistic people to socialize with. I would think they were normal, authentic, interesting, easy to communicate with, and accepting. Meanwhile, I thought most people were inauthentic, shallow, hard to understand, and judgmental. Now that I know I’m autistic, I understand that:
inauthentic = social conformity amd social construction of reality
shallow = small talk
hard to understand = speak using “polite” indirect implications and social cues
judgmental = upset that I “ignored” their indirect politeness and broke social norms by speaking directly. Ironically, I was being judgmental of them, too.
I still prefer autistics because they’re just my people and we get along much better, but have more understanding and acceptance of NT behaviors. Anyway, when I found out I was autistic, a some of them were like, “We thought you knew…it’s pretty obvious.”