I pretty much stumbled into Lemmy. I’m not a programmer but have always been tech savvy and grew up with the Internet. I used reddit a lot because I liked being in a majority male space. Even when I was an egg, it would give me a rush of euphoria when people automatically assumed I was a dude on Reddit. I was one of the people who jumped ship from Reddit when all the API stuff went down.
Reddit doesn’t seem like it’s got as bad of an AFAB problem as it used to. When I left it wasn’t uncommon for people to mention if they were a woman and wasn’t as taboo from the looks of it. The trans spaces were pretty big and active. I’m sure the demographics are still slightly skewed but they’re certainly not as bad as they were six years ago when I’d first joined.