hrefna, 2 months ago

Making up random numbers for server size is an easy activity that anyone can do.

Doing actual analysis on why servers are that size or how to fix that problem is much, much harder. Understanding the consequences of trying to arbitrarily cap server sizes is much much harder.

You're upset with threads? Sure. Don't like that m.s is federating with them? Sure.

Whining about how larger servers continue to exist and proposing arbitrary caps is not an answer, however.

hrefna, 2 months ago

"Increase the cost of the fediverse by an order of magnitude with this one weird trick! All while doing nothing to improve the funding model!"

It's okay to just be upset about things.

hrefna, 2 months ago

You can be upset about something or not like something without:

1. It being Problematic™
2. Vilifying those who have come to different conclusions or who weigh priorities differently
3. Making up things that aren't true or creating distortions to support your argument
4. Harassing those who disagree
5. Borrowing from other concerns where the concern is true, but unrelated to what you are concerned about
6. There even being a reason at all

You can just not like it. It's okay.

argv_minus_one, 2 months ago

@hrefna

People say and do those things when they hate someone and they know they're in the wrong for hating that someone. They seek justification, so that they're not in the wrong any more.

hrefna, 2 months ago

@argv_minus_one They also do it as a way to convince people, including sometimes themselves, that it is "okay" to not like something.

Someone has a squick and rather than acknowledge that "this is a squick and I should just put filters in place" they try to find a way to make it Problematic™ and blame others for their feelings, because then it is "okay" for them to hate it and demand that others remove it.

It's the dance of "someone (who is not me) should be protecting me."