Maybe it was unclear, i meant that i cant even fault people for mistaking themselves as the victim in a situation where they arent. If you experienced X because of Y a 100 times, then if you experience X for the 101st time it would only be natural to assume, that it was because of Y. Thats just how humans work. But ofcourse everyone is gonna look at only the 101st time and assume that you have an unjustified victim mentality.