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I heard this quote recently and it really resonated with me. I went no contact with my family 3 years ago and I have enough distance now that I’ve grown around the pain enough to be less destabilized when I miss them. But even though I miss them and struggle to fully understand that feeling sometimes, I know that if I were to...
Have one from me today!
I think in my case this is a combination of 2 factors: having very self-absorbed parents (I would classify one as non-N and one as N) who really just didn’t give a crap about my interests or inner life most of the time, plus one symptom of my being on the spectrum is that one very specific input wire is pulled and I have...
A while ago Ns gave me a farewell email i think. I don’t read their emails, but the header looked like that and I accidentally read part of the header. I didn’t reply....
clearly state your case once and then leave it at that. If the narcissist doesn’t accept it and persists, walk away
Why are we arguing with someone who’s determined to see you as the cause of everything that’s wrong in their life?
X will reach out due to being concerned. X wastes a lot of time pretending to not be 100% on Nparent’s side, then tells me to go back to them for more abuse.
When I was a little kid my mother (passive agressive bipolar narcissist) opened her heart to me. Keep in mind, I am her first of two children with different fathers and she wasn’t married. She told me how she never felt loved by her parents, siblings, or the men in her life. She said she thought by having a baby she would get...
Sandy (Ngrandma) declares that the next time her grandchildren come over she’s going to reiterate the house rules, point out the two rules plaques she already has up, and put up another ten. The other members cheer her on. Much later, her granddaughter chooses a university she would need to drive to, instead of getting a ride...
Nfam got together and spent 2+ hrs complaining about me and discussing whether they will evict me late at night. But not to me, to each other. They made sure they were yelling about it through the entire house, so i heard them. For context i’m disabled. Next day they left this note on the fridge:
They may be incapable of knowing. There are no magic words that will penetrate their defenses....
I’ve been paying attention over the years and have seen a slow escalation of aggression by the Ns. It just dawned on me that if this keeps going up, they might actually kill me, like stab me to death....
What should I do/say if they press for “what errands”?...
Just wondering. My Nparents liked trump the moment he said ‘muslims bad’
Just needed a space to vent a bit. I’m currently sitting here (I should be napping while my baby sleeps) watching messages roll by in a private family chat planning a surprise birthday for my brother. On my birthday....
I get drained if I spend too much time with someone negative. With less eye contact, I hold up better it seems.
I was housed recently. Lost my place and my Npartner. Had to move back in with Nparents. Npartner was bad, but Nparents are a whole other level of bad. I was in jail for 1 day. Nparents are comparably bad as the jail. The jail didn’t allow me to use my prescription meds and confined me. Npartner was more about the silence...
They’d asked ‘why didn’t you do that?’ I’d explain, then get in even more trouble for explaining. I thought they wanted an answer? Am i suppose to just say nothing?
GC has, apparently, for the past few yrs, been LC with Nparents. Including LC when with them in person. GC recommended Ndad gets a therapist and he has. Therapist told Ndad that his family sucks from the sounds of it, and he announced to me today that GC seems awfully rude. I’ve never heard him say anything negative about GC....
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