It’s important to note that Lemmy.ml is defederated from lemmygrad. So while there may be some of the same people involved, the instance as a whole is run correctly.
I can’t really tell the truth behind all this drama, because there seems to be a pretty dedicated group of people trying to slander lemmy.ml, but I’ve never seen anything unreasonable out of them.
At this point, I honestly think it’s a hit-squad paid by Reddit to discredit Lemmy.