I dunno, ask my ex, the most outspoken feminist I ever met. Her exact response to me telling her that I'd been assaulted was "oh boo hoo." Shortly thereafter, she tried to spermjack me.
So then you recognize that my fear is unfounded, whether I can convince myself of that fact or not? Perhaps even pathologically so?
Also, ask any man you're close to (if you're able to get over the crushing fear of being near someone with a penis) how many times he's been assaulted. Then ask him why he's never reported it. If he had, he was either going to get called a pussy (mostly by women, in my experience) or he'd get laughed out of whatever police station he reported it at. Oh, or because he's afraid she'll flip the script and claim that he raped her, which people will actually listen to. Whoops, there goes several years of his life, all for the low, low price of getting sexually assaulted.
If you want to talk about unspoken realities, the male sexual assault rates are a particularly grim one.
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