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Justas

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Lithuanian 30+ year-old shitposter who works as a programmer.

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The largest predictor of divorce is a commute longer than 45 minutes.

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Poland is the China of Europe. Everything you can do, they can do cheaper.

Also, Poland is much less corrupt and the privatization in the 90s worked a bit better than in Russia, at least it didn’t create a powerful class of oligarchs due to less mineral resources. Most of their major companies are relatively young though.

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Mearsheimer, Morgenthau and similar “political realists” are the main reason why the world is in such a messy state.

They dehumanise entire societies into poker chips to be traded between the superpowers, disregard their national interests and ignore history and non-european states when convenient.

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You switch cause and effect, realism tries to describe the word as is and not as it should be and then bases policies on that.

It’s less of a linear relationship and more of a feedback loop. The more politicians buy into this political theory, the more effect it has on the world and vice versa.

yet the world is still made up of poker chips and superpowers.

Iran is a good example of being neither. There are also a bunch of non-state actors who challenge the status quo. Realism fails to explain Al Qaeda, Taliban and ISIS joining the poker table.

Commercial actors are also become more and more powerful and their interests often do not align with those of the state. Google and Meta have a higher revenue than several countries and is capable of influencing public opinion.

Realism fails to explain how all superpowers fall apart from within or from outside forces eventually. Where is the British Empire? Where is the Dutch Empire? Where are the Romans?

Of course the policies you choose based on realist principles can be used to increase your power as a country

It can also be used to lose your power, destroy your credibility and sabotage your economy. Realism also doesn’t take soft power into account. You can easily trade your soft power for hard power but it is very difficult to get soft power back.

(given the limitations of the natural anarchic state of international politics).

But international politics are governed by international law and various treaties. Just because some countries can break international law and get away with it, doesn’t mean that the law itself is meaningless.

As a Dutch person I accept that the US can decide to turn the Netherlands into a nuclear testing ground whenever it wants and there is nothing we can do about that, but given this fact we should still try to create a peaceful world.

You can do a lot about it, from petitioning other governments to cease diplomatic relations to terrorism. Even a small country, like the Netherlands, is a complex social system with it’s own interests and guiding principles and not just a chip in political games of giants.

I don't want to form parasocial relationships with people I fap to

Parasocial relationships refer to one-sided relationships in which a person develops a strong sense of connection, intimacy, or familiarity with someone they don’t know, most often celebrities or media personalities. These relationships exist only in the mind of the individual, who experiences a bond despite the lack of...

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Yes, I agree that people you like online are not your friends and you should not defend them when they get called for their toxic behaviour.

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I wouldn’t mock a person for having parasocial relationships, but I would mock them for paying a lot of money to an OnlyFans model. I think that there is a spectrum of acceptable parasocial relationships and I am trying to draw a line where “ok” ends and “despicable” begins.

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Despicable? I’m curious about where this line is, can you elaborate?

I don’t know specifically, but I think masturbating to a person you have formed a parasocial relationship with is close to that line.

Also, what is your attitude on people who have sex with many partners (with informed consent etc).

I do not condemn nor condone such behaviour, it might be against my personal moral compass, but as long as both sides know what they are doing it isn’t bad.

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Point taken. But it might be a matter of degree of how strong a relationship is.

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I just think that such behaviour is unhealthy and we’ll see just how unhealthy it is in the coming years.

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First of all, ai bots will probably steal all kinds of information from people. And the money that is spent on them could be useful for so many more useful things. I would suggest to seek genuine connections or even go to chatrooms over bots, ai or otherwise.

Not to mention how dealing with bots might warp your ability to socialise. A lot of things that are acceptable to bots are unacceptable to real people. Some people use them to play out fantasy scenarios of non-consent, abuse, etc.

Having said all that, if somebody wants to play around with that stuff, it’s fine as long as it’s not your only way to socialise or seek intimacy. I remember The Gift of Fear by Gavin de Becker and it talked about how video games are not inherently bad and don’t make us more violent, but they take time away from us that we can use to do social things instead.

Depending on how hard it is for a person to socialise, a group hobby or even group therapy sessions might be the solution.

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IMO there’s nothing wrong with that.

I agree. My original point was that it’s okay to have a relationship like that, but it’s not okay to sexualise it.

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I don’t know. Getting old and conservative in my own way, I guess.

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Don’t be too hard on yourself. Humor is very important when you experience crazy things.

This book, for example, was written by a political prisoner who had survived a Nazi camp, but is full of jokes: Forest of the Gods by Balys Sruoga

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By embracing an identity, corporations end up destroying it.

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Ir was always cringe, but we did it anyway.

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The cutout looks like Saddam Hussein.

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You can’t really destroy an insurgency via military means. See: Iraq, Afghanistan.

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Is it common to use turboprop airplanes for AWACS purposes?

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Those things are everywhere this year, they start flying right before sunset and they are large enough to wake me up when they hit my windows.

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Fallen rockets might still have propellants in them, such as hydrazine or nitric acid, so I’d say it’s a good call.

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In my country, she’d get 4-6 years for committing it.

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Same mental age as him either way.

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Me: plays metal to friendFriend: “Can we, like, turn the music off and just sit in silence.”

Same friend listens to trance which just makes me fall asleep during work.

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I hate how relatable this community is to me, a straight cis male.

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