WrenArcher

waitnwallflower, 11 months ago to random

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WrenArcher, 11 months ago to queer

On this last day of #Pride month I wanted to remind all my #trans sisters

🎶 If you fight like a girl,
cry like a girl;

if you feel like a girl
then you real like a girl.🎶

https://youtu.be/z_xCVttXLm0

WrenArcher, 11 months ago to trans

Sorry in advance.
This will go long.

CW for… I don’t know, how about “out of character, minor breakdown post? Dysphoria talk? HRT stuff?
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I haven’t mentioned this but to three close friends and my wife but I’ve been on a “hormone holiday” for almost a month.
Tomorrow will be 28 days of me being off estrogen per my doctor’s instruction.

Yeah. Four weeks.

So when I post here, I try to be positive, joyful, silly and show a side of being transgender that is uplifting. But yesterday evening, I finally snapped. I’d been telling my wife, those friends and even myself that I’m doing well… that I feel good emotionally.

But over the past week something changed. I was gradually wavering back and forth between feeling okay and like I was getting close to an edge. I've been feeling like my face is changing back. My breast tissue feels like it has gotten smaller and it doesn’t have the mild ache that it did before. And what little curve I had in my figure seems to have disappeared. On top of it all, my wife said pretty much all of that to me when I got home from work yesterday.

And that was it. When she left the room, I broke down and started bawling.
I feel like I should clarify, she wasn’t saying this to be mean. She is really angry that the doc instructed me to stop for a month and she has been asking me… pushing me to start back again.

Now I’ve always contended that I don’t have much in the way of dysphoria, if any. But I’m beginning to think this isn’t necessarily true because the idea that I’ve reverted back sent me into a sob fest the likes I haven’t had since my mom passed away more than two years ago.

And here’s what's important for non-trans folks to understand about the incongruence between body and gender identity for #trans women… it isn’t about growing boobs. It isn’t about having a cute face. It isn’t about getting soft skin and losing that man-smell. Hormone therapy does those things but… in doing so, it takes away some of the masculine features WE, as trans women, see in ourselves.

And this is why I had my minor freak out. Although I know logically and with the comfort of my friends and my doc, that just 28 days of being off estrogen is not enough time to actually revert. But I feel like three years of changes have been set back to day one. And as a result, I gave myself a headache and a snotty nose.

At the beginning of this “hormone holiday” as my doc marketed it (I assume to make it more palatable to me) he gave me his personal phone number so that I could text him if necessary. Well, yesterday, it became necessary. Just after doing, so I texted two very dear friends who helped talk me off the ledge and my wife was extremely comforting as well. My doc texted back and when I didn’t respond he actually called me… at 9 o’clock in the evening. He said for me to get my blood draw as soon as I could and immediately take my pill again.

Not sure why I’m putting this out there. I guess to let y’all know that it’s not always unicorns and rainbows over here at Chez Wren. On the plus side though, I’m tremendously lucky to have a supportive spouse and dear friends to walk me through the woods when it gets dark.

Be safe friends.
Happy #Pride. 🙂

Alice, 11 months ago to random

For those curious, this is the origin story for the American Girl doll cosplay.

American Girl Doll Nicki next to American Woman Human Alice. Both wearing a baseball cap, ringer tee, jumper dress, flannel shirt, tube socks, and sneakers.

WrenArcher, 11 months ago to trans

An #ewwphoria scene from last night.
At the ballpark to watch our #SodPoodles take on the Hooks.

Me in line getting nachos and a beer.

Counter lady: “can I see some ID hon?”
Me: in a pleading voice
“I’m sorry. I didn’t bring my ID. I didn’t drive today. But look… I have to wear bifocals.”

Counter lady smiles. “Alright. Have a nice night.”

Drunk middle aged dude: (him in line seeing the exchange) “Did she really card you?”

Me: “Yeah.”

Drunk middle aged dude: as he gives me a quick look up and down
“You look old enough to me.”

And THAT my #trans sisters is eww-phoria. When you get validated as a woman but are totally grossed out by it.

WrenArcher, 11 months ago to trans

“Here’s to swimmin’ with bowlegged women.”
~ Capt Quint

I have a new found appreciation and respect for those who take mirror selfies. I had a bit of trouble trying to get one that was worthy of posting.

And I think I might actually be starting to be okay with my weird little bow legs. I have always, always hated them. But i guess with my shapeshifting my mind is shifting a little as well.

#trans #Transfemme
#SelfieSaturday
#GoSodPoodles!

WrenArcher, 11 months ago to Fashion

Okay... so I have a #fashion question.

I have a blue dress with white polka dots very much like the one pictured.

I've got some sandals that would go okay with it I guess but I was thinking I'd like to wear some little red sneakers with white scrunchy crew socks.

What do you think?
Yes? No? Meh?
Advice please?
Is it too... I don't know, like teen-look for a woman my age?

Poll in the comments.

WrenArcher, 11 months ago to random

Y’all remember that time I was riding my bike and I got stung by a wasp right on my buttocks and also was riding the whole two hours with a hole in my stretchy pants?

Good times.

Happy #HumpDay everyone.

WrenArcher, 1 year ago to random

CW for the photo: selfie, direct eye contact
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Good Sunday morning #TransMastodon

So if you follow our friend @faithisleaping you probably saw her post yesterday that included a picture of us together.

Yes!!!

The planets aligned just right and I had the wonderful opportunity to have lunch with her and her lovely wife.

We sat for a couple of hours just talking away. It felt cut way too short but I had a pretty good drive ahead of me and unfortunately had to leave.

And if any of you know Faith at all from her posts, you know she’s one of nicest girls here on TransMastodon. Well it is equally true in person and then some. And her wife is an absolute doll as well.

Thank you Faith and Mrs Faith for spending your Saturday afternoon with this little hot mess. Muah!!! 😊

They of course looked lovely and ready for a casual lunch with a friend. I on the other hand came screeching in, a hot mess and looking like I had just stepped off the ball field of the city lesbian softball league and was still 40min late. Sorry about that Faith. 🤗

Selfie of me with my no-makeup, makeup look.

Terra, 1 year ago to random

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danirabbit, 1 year ago to random

Trans legislative risk map was updated and omg it’s so bad. It’s so bad. Holy shit :( https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/may-anti-trans-legislative-risk-map

WrenArcher, 1 year ago to random

I guess I haven’t done one of these in a few weeks plus @ValerieMars said she hadn’t heard my voice before.

So here’s a toot for #TransVoiceFriday

#HaveaGoodWeekendYall

WrenArcher, 1 year ago to random

Every now and then I’ll come across a post where someone will talk about how some haters, nazis, fascists, bigots, etc weaseled in under the radar of the fediblock list and I’m honestly surprised by it.

I mean… I sometimes feel like I’m at the playground hanging out with friends and there is a dome around us. And I’m completely oblivious to the viciousness on the other side of a toxic, arid wasteland full of beings who were once human but have lost their souls.

I’m really thankful for all the admins out there keeping things nice here for us and wanted a give a shout out to my admin @theropologist who is unbelievably proactive and aggressive about keeping this instance safe and by extension fun.

WrenArcher, 1 year ago to random

Wow. Because of so much rhetoric over drag performance and the evil cabal trying to trans all the kids... the pearl clutching, hand-wringing, family values folks here in Houston have declared they are uncomfortable with their kids going to see...
are you ready?
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JAMES

AND THE GIANT PEACH!!!
In this particular production eight actors are producing a play with 20 characters, many of which are insects.

How the heck did we get here? Why? Why do they have a problem with the MILLENIA old tradition of actors portraying a role opposite their gender? How have people let themselves get fooled into being so, SO afraid?

https://www.houstonpublicmedia.org/articles/news/arts-culture-news/2023/04/27/450282/houston-area-schools-scrap-field-trips-to-see-james-and-the-giant-peach-over-concerns-about-cross-gender-casting-at-main-street-theater/

WrenArcher, 1 year ago to random

CW: trans woman pre-op anatomy, lewd comments, hypocrisy
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I don’t get on instagram much anymore. I log in about once a week… maybe twice to see what my gravel cycling club has posted, maybe post a photo/selfie as well as to see pics of the several cute transgirls I follow there.

One trans woman I follow posted a pic of herself in workout gear, her small girl-bulge clearly showing. Whatever you think of trans girl-bulges aside, she is objectively very attractive by today’s beauty standards. No doubt about it. She is a really gorgeous young woman.

Well, on this particular photo she had 98 comments and of those, there were NINETY COMMENTS… from dudes. Yeah… 90 of 98. They were saying tame things about her like, “gorgeous” “stunning” or putting five or ten heart-eye emojis. There were some making innuendos and commenting directly about her girl-bulge. And then there were the guys writing of the sex acts they’d like to perform with her as well as the two or three marriage proposals.

NINETY of 98.

I checked another photo of hers from a few days prior where she was in workout clothing, her little girl-bulge slightly showing but still quite obvious.

A HUNDRED AND FIFTY-ONE of 164 comments from dudes with the same type of comments about how they found her attractive.

Look… we know you’re out there.
We trans girls get your rather “descriptive” comments on our photos…

every

single

time

we post one.

But you know what? Not all are lewd. Some are from kind, complimentary guys who are allies. Guys who are simply giving us a kind word. You know the type… he’s just a good guy. And to you… thank you guys. You’re awesome. ☺️

Believe it or not, a handful of the comments are from cis women who see us as attractive or simply are lifting up the confidence of a trans girl. They, coincidentally, are not creepy about it. So keep those coming ladies. We love to see your compliments. They make us feel good and they feel genuine. 🥰

But to the guys who want us but only away from broad daylight….

You know what?
Be a good boy, go get some therapy. Put your shame aside. Tell your bros that trans women are women, that you think trans women are gorgeous. And call your fucking state legislators and tell them to leave trans people and trans kids the hell alone!!!

WrenArcher, 1 year ago to random

Wake up! Wake up!… we’ve made it to mid-week.
It’s #HumpDay
Wednesday.
Peak of the work week.

Also… remember to use #CamelCase It helps those who use screen readers.

https://www.instagram.com/reel/CrWCpsAg_Fw

WrenArcher, 1 year ago to random

CW: direct eye contact, selfie.
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Thought I'd change my profile back to a facey pic.

"Facey's" a word right?

Hope you're all doing well
Hope you have a good day.
Remember to drink your water.
Muah!

#TransJoy

Coachmark, 1 year ago to random

What do you think voter turnout will be like for the 2024 Presidential Election? And is it bad form to challenge a sitting President who plans to run again? Joe's a good guy, but I would love to see someone that would really get voters thoroughly excited to get out and vote.

I realize there are many important issues to inspire people to get out and vote, but imagine that coupled with someone exciting to vote for in 2024.

I fear for low voter turnout due to lack of excitement.