Yeah its like they don’t understand the difference between just looking at someone that has a cool haircut and someone creep staring at you to where you feel unsafe.
I don’t want people staring at me like I’m a zoo animal. Bur apparently people in the comments here don’t understand that.
Sexist to notice someone with bright unnatural hair and heavy near clown makeup, sure. She’s keeping such a low profile, I can’t believe she would be looked at.
So if people dress a certain way its okay to stare like a weirdo? The post isn’t about just looking at someone. Its old creeps staring at young girls. There is a difference.
Weirdoing begets weirdoing. All sexuality and age stuff aside, she is being weird too, which seemed like the point here.
Though I wonder how much age really has to do with it. These days her classmates probably are running AI off her yearbook photo, if not her instagram. So an old guy looking at her funny in meatspace is probably more innocuous.
The narcissism on so many levels is such an adorable aspect of this every generation
Same thing happened in : 90s with Goths, 80s with New Wave , 70s with gender fluid androgyny, 60s with hippies, 50s with rock and roll… 20s with flapper girls.
She’s trying to do ominous wide-eyes, like a manic character from a cartoon or something, the idea being that she would “scare away” the older gentleman with her “unhinged” look.
Of course to anyone who has lived even a week in the real world, instead it just looks like somebody trying to looking intimidating and failing
What does it mean when a middle aged man stars at you in public? Or, is starring at you? That sounds like some kind of situation in which you could probably call the cops.
It’s super uncomfortable. I nowadays feel like a movie star but without any of the positives that go with it and only the negatives. Well mostly, sometimes someone smiles nicely which is nice.
I absolutely get that, but I just didn’t think it was illegal or worth calling the cops for, which the person I replied to said should happen. But maybe I’m being naive.
You’re not being naive, the comment was joking about the meme incorrectly using “starring” (the gerund of “to star” as in “Cillian Murphy is starring in this movie”) when the meme creator clearly meant to use “staring”, the gerund of “to stare”.
it isn’t but you can’t know if it will possibly get illegal in a very short amount of time. Who can possibly know what these people think of or are up to. Sometimes you get the impression it’s nothing good as you squeeze your pepper spray with sweaty hands keeping your composure outwardly immaculate
I will drift off into a 1000 yard stare, sometimes from my deployments, other times wondering where the hell my life went, other times trying to figure out why my kids want to watch the same episode of Bluey for the 416th time.
Really hoping I never did it in the direction of someone and made them feel this way. Makes me want to go out in public even less, I hate bothering people.
I’ve got to admit, a girl makes that face at me, I’m going to walk up and start explaining the plot of Krull (1983) for as long as she can hold it. If she makes it through the whole thing I’m pretty sure we’re legally married.
There is a difference between a guy staring into the void, and an older guy checking you out. I’ve experienced both and I don’t understand how people manage to confuse the two.
One day, about 10 years ago, a guy pull out a knife to fight me in a subway station because he thought I was staring at him. Also got some nasty comments from women who thought I was looking at them when I didn’t even notice their presence. Now I try to look at the floor in public in case I get lost in my mind.
Fuck that’s horrible. Yeah. I made eye contact with a guy that lasted too long. We were walking towards each other. He grabbed the back of my head and pushed it down. Wasn’t as scary as it sounds. Just disrespectful. I avoid eye contact too. Some people are just evil.
It is in fact really easy to tell the difference, you just hear more about the times people make the mistake because it’s not noteworthy when somebody goes “that guy’s just staring off into space” and is right. You also likely have a bigger emotional reaction, assuming you’re a guy, to a woman mistakenly thinking a guy is staring at her and being wrong than you do the knowledge that women get stared at a lot, so it makes the first seem like it’s happening more often.
I’ve lived on both sides (trans) and can tell you I didn’t realize it was this common to get really obviously stared at by older men. And the older they are the more likely they are to do it, which is lucky, because I’m much less afraid of a 70 year old man doing anything to me than a 20-40 year old. I find the only thing I can do in that situation is to avoid looking them directly in the eyes, because they take that as a sign to approach.
Am a woman. And sorry to hear about your bad experiences. Guess it comes with the territory huh? Older men sure know how to be creeps. And older women too. Cougars are predators after all.
Agreed. And older women being creeps too needs to be talked about more. Pretransition, in 7th grade, I had a math teacher who tried to flirt with me and it made me horribly uncomfortable, but I could never talk to anybody about it because people would act like that was a good thing and I should feel good for it, and those who acknowledged it was a problem still told me I must have imagined it. I can say one good thing about being a woman is despite encountering creeps way more often, at least I’m allowed to be upset about it now.
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