@lonelinesscorps
The thing I struggle the most with loneliness wise is my cognition. I often just don't have the words for banter and especially miss having deep chats on a variety of topics. This is particularly frustrating when I am physically isolated and online stuff is my main way to connect.
I long to be in a room full of people all quietly not talking, just being physically present.
Completely understood. When the pandemic hit, I locked down, with just my flatmate in my bubble. We stayed that way more or less for a couple of years. My flatmate and I aren't huggy. It's just not part of our relationship.
Which meant I went that two years without any touch at all from another living being. It became a physical pain in me not to have it. We are social creatures, and the feel of warm skin of another creature means so much. I can't have a pet that I could cuddle, because my flatmate's allergic (this is not, please note, a request for pets I might be able to have anyway - I'm simplifying the problem to get it out of my way, not asking for advice).
It was one of the hardest things I've ever been through. Throw in that we had bedbugs most of the same period, because with the lockdowns we couldn't go anywhere if they fumigated, and we were seriously miserable.
I have bonded (probably inappropriately) with a hot water bottle exactly because of this desperate need for the warm weighty contact of a not-available pet.
that is so fucking awful. The pandemic has been SO hard in ways we are just starting to unpack.
@ShaulaEvans "Skin hunger" amazing term! I feel ya.
My grandma discovered q childhood friend when she went into a care home, and they used to sit side by side, wordless, just holding hands.
Touch is so powerful, and it's absence sometimes surprisingly intense. @lonelinesscorps
Not an answer to your question, but appreciation for your #SitTogether tag - I love, love, love the gentle "I'm here, this is what I'm doing, and I'm thinking of you all. If you would like to join me in the quiet moment, please do". 💛
☝️btw, I will ironically (and/or with consistency) probably not make words at your replies, but will quietly enjoy them and feel warm fuzzy heart feelings at you and what you share. 💖
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