The power dynamic between 14 and 18 is not the same as the one between 14 and 54, but it’s still there and somewhat problematic. Here you are claiming that it didn’t at all traumatize you while also arguing that pedophilia is perfectly fine.
Poe married his cousin when she was 13.
That same year, you could legally purchase another human being. Those two things being commonplace once upon a time doesn’t make them any less fucked up.
Maybe she actually wanted to marry him?
I can’t tell if you’re still going on about Poe’s cousin here or if you’re talking about the child from the article, so I’ll try to address both…
Little girls in America in the early 1800s didn’t have a whole lot of options. They weren’t allowed to go to college. They couldn’t vote. Good paying jobs were out of the question. In the particular case of Virginia Clemm, her family was destitute. Poe paid the family off so they would allow the marriage, and he had to lie about her age on the marriage license. Not the greatest example if that’s who you’re talking about.
If you’re talking about the child from the article, she definitely didn’t want to marry him. The rapist threatened her and her family to get his way. Let’s entertain the hypothetical though. Even if she did want to marry her rapist, it doesn’t make it ok. 14-year-olds want absurd things all the time. Mine would drop out of middle school and play video games all day if I let him. Doesn’t mean he understands the impact that decision would have on his life.