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Amelia_,
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Not so great. 6 months HRT.

I don’t look good in any feminine clothing. I’m too insecure to practice voice or makeup around my partner. Because I don’t look remotely femme I’m too insecure to look for a hairdresser.

My partner keeps pressuring me because I don’t like enough traditionally cis woman things, or don’t like them as much as I should, or that I still like some things that are not necessarily targeted towards cis women, and its ruining my self-confidence. I need local transfem friends I can reach out to and hang out with and go shopping with but its not easy being older and non-US.

Once step forward, three steps back.

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It feels like my partner wants to be supportive because it’s the right thing to do, but at an instinctive level she is unhappy and resentful as she was raised in an exceptionally conservative, highly-religious, eastern european family.

Which results in saying the right things, but pulling back short of any real support with passive aggression, apathy, and feigned ignorance. I’m not sure whether I’d prefer that to completely unsupportive.

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America is even worse than I thought if so! I pay a third of that for estrogen, finasteride, and progesterone! And that’s in the UK, which is its own special hellhole…

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Definitely agree, it’s had a great start but needs a lot more content to be considered a full game and not just an entertaining side piece in the Deep Rock Galactic world.

New maps, new objectives, new monsters, new weapons, new powerups, new challenges, endless modes and leaderboards, might even want to think about a pvp mode where the enemy controls the bugs, choosing how and when to release them with cooldowns/abilities.

Any cozy game recommendations?

Hii cuties! I am currently going through quite the amount of evil disgusting and bad dysphoria, so I would really like to distract myself from myself right now… Even though I am not a fan of consumerism, this is the one time I feel it is appropriate to consume some media. I do have a homebrewed switch and a computer running...

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I was gonna suggest this but I couldn’t remember the name! Kept getting Palworld in my search results -.-

Although tbf that might not be a terrible suggestion either.

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I assume you already played it but since it hasn’t explicitly been mentioned I definitely have to call out Celeste, basically one of the most iconic transfem games out there!

Terraria can be pretty comfy if you’re in the mood for it, and Clone Hero is the perfect rhythm game if you have Guitar Hero nostalgia!

I'm really confused

It’s been around a month since I started questioning my gender. I’m really confused on all of this, seeing a therapist would help but that’s not an option for me at the moment (don’t want to go into details about that here). Biggest source of confusion for me is the fact that there are some strong signs that I’m trans...

Amelia_,
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Really well written, exactly how I felt, and still feel sometimes.

Amelia_,
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My egg really cracked when I realised I didn’t have to be alone and I found somewhere to talk about what I was experiencing: lemmy.blahaj.zone/post/5765509

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My hair is getting longer but it is still in the awkward phase, my diet is kinda off-track but i’m starting to accept i’ll probably never have a flat tummy, and I found my newest unrealistic transition goal! So all in all, an okay but not amazing week!

It’s Melissa O’Neil in Dark Matter.

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Maybe I’m just too impatient but I struggled a lot getting much benefit out of TransVoiceLessons

Zhea is clearly exceptionally talented and has a near unique understanding of voice, but like 90% of the videos on that channel are pure theory. Things like “hearing vocal resonance”, “the difference between weight and resonance”, “exercises are BAD”, motivation tips, Q&As, and road maps.

I’m left feeling “What do I actually DO???”

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I love this, specially with the matching audio recordings and clear explanations of what we’re aiming for. Thank you so much! ❤️

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I guess I don’t wanna dump all my anxieties on whoever reads this, but after seeing the results of about four months of HRT it feels like I’ll need a miracle to change enough to stop feeling all consuming disgust and shame.

But fortunately transition hits everyone differently, so I’m sure the rest of you will get exactly what you need from it!

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I really want to throw out a bunch of my old boy clothes but I’m not nearly comfortable enough with my body yet, and not comfortable enough to go shopping for girlie things. It’s leaving me feeling stuck in between versions of myself and unable to move forward.

It doesn’t help that my birthday is this week and I am feeling like I am just way too old and flabby for fashion to even make a difference.

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I really needed this message, thank you so much!! ❤️ ❤️

Amelia_,
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Yesterday I had my consultation appointment for laser hair removal. Their office was very cute and smelled nice and full of really really pretty girls, even though the appointment went well I had this massive surge of imposter syndrome and had to stop myself crying in the waiting room! And then I went home and made myself a burger that I had been looking forward to, but it ended up being a bit bad.

So my week has been kinda mixed! 😂

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I do understand why this decision was taken, but I think this could become very messy without some explicit method of requesting (or rejecting) engagement. Lemmy is a very big place, and its unlikely even the most well-meaning individuals will check the sidebar for every single community they enter when they only want to contribute to a post. This is just exacerbated by the subjective, loosely defined requests for engagement as the system stands.

Even aside from outside users, I can imagine it creating issues when moderation is enforced. We’ve already had enough drama around this instance regarding the way we protect our users and defend our right to exist, the best thing we can do moving forward is make such protections as clear, unambiguous, and explicit as possible. For the safety of our transfem girlies and the health of our community discussions.

I would definitely vote for a set of community agreed tags in post titles to state engagement preferences, where any post without a tag should be assumed to encourage engagement from any reader.

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I’m generally just a lot happier, like sometimes I worry if I’m worrying enough about the important things hehe~

But also my appetite just like… evaporated. Today I had a little oatmeal in the morning and a healthy sandwich at lunch, maybe I’ll have a coffee later but I know I won’t really want anything else. Just six weeks ago that would have left me feeling starving!

I’m hoping for a lot more changes in my face, and booba, but what transfem isn’t a little booba greedy? ❤️ ❤️

Amelia_,
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“Is she an inspiration or do you just have a crush on her?”

Me: Yes.

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Oh gosh… I didn’t see the question was for trans characters, I was thinking of lots of cis ladies!

  • Inara Serra from Firefly (since it was mentioned)
  • Margery Tyrell from Game of Thrones
  • Kristin Ortega from Altered Carbon
  • Rosa Diaz from Brooklyn Nine-Nine
  • Elliot Reid from Scrubs
  • Deanna Troi from Star Trek TNG
  • Lucy Chen from The Rookie

I don’t have a problem I swear ;_;

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I made the mistake of visiting the transfem fashion subreddit, and saw page after page super cute girls in pretty dresses, with flat tummies, and perfect makeup, and no awful body hair like mine. So I’m kinda struggling today.

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