EmilyIsTrans

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

The computer is probably locked down and all software/os provisioned by their IT department

EmilyIsTrans, 9 days ago

Yeah see, I don’t think you get it. First of all the term has existed across multiple generations at this point, and really only unifies discussions of hegemonic masculinity that have spanned far longer.

Secondly, and more importantly, toxic masculinity has nothing to do with the “basis of gender”, unless of course you’re claiming that these traits are inherent to males, in which case I suggest you start with “The Second Sex” and work your way up to a real conversation. To put it simply for you, toxic masculinity is just a term used to encompass certain behaviours, and (more importantly) how they are taught and reinforced. It’s obviously more complex than that, I haven’t even mentioned the study of how the rigid enforcement of these behaviours can negatively affect men, but I suggest you learn from a book instead of random women on Lemmy.

EmilyIsTrans, 10 days ago

Just because you don’t understand academic terminology doesn’t mean it is a buzzword

EmilyIsTrans, 12 days ago

Bundaberg Spiced Ginger Beer

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

Go to your local transfem meetup

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

I think the Rabbit R1 is an underbaked and dumb product. That said, Rabbit would have had to have had a few too many kicks to the head if they seriously considered not just running Android under the hood. Android is open source, and there is no good reason to not utilize the hundreds of millions of dollars that Google has already poured into developing mature a mature operating system with all the drivers and frameworks they need.

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago (edited 1 month ago)

Thanks for the encouragement <3 I’ve been putting it off and definitely been a bit in the “doom and gloom” headspace. I’ve always spoken in a fairly deep monotone, so its fair to say I was pretty daunted by the idea of manipulating my voice. That said, I actually finally managed to make some minor (but meaningful) progress last time I practiced, so hopefully I can ride on that success to motivate me!

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

I finally pass visually, at least sometimes (I can tell because men have started referring to me as girl, and online they condescendingly explain basic programming concepts to me), but man my voice is so masculine. I’ve only just started voice training and I wish I had started earlier.

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

I’ll check it out! Hopefully it works as well for me as it did for you

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

I’m sure you don’t need me to tell you this, but having hobbies and likes that aren’t traditionally feminine doesn’t make you any less a woman. Every cis woman I know has at least a couple supposedly “masculine” hobbies. If you’re partner is pressuring you to fit into a sexist stereotype, it sounds like they aren’t actually very supportive of you.

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

For me, I found reading Honeybee extremely impactful when I started questioning my gender. Seeing someone go through the same struggles as me and having the same thoughts helped push me to finally visit my local gender clinic and start transitioning.

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago (edited 1 month ago)

I love literature for and by trans people. The first time I really felt seen in that way was when I read Small Beauty by Jia Qing Wilson-Yang. You can just tell that it was written by a trans woman with lived experience. Trans stories written by cis people just have different vibes.

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

I double the Nevada rec! Plus, I just found out yesterday that Jane Schoenbrun is making a movie adaptation!

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

As a moderator of a couple communities, some basic/copypasta misbehaviour is caught by automated bots that I largely had to bootstrap or heavily modify myself. Near everything else has to be manually reviewed, which obviously isn’t particularly sustainable in the long term.

Improving the situation is a complex issue, since these kinds of tools often require a level of secrecy incompatible with FOSS principles to work effectively. If you publicly publish your model/algorithm for detecting spam, spammers will simply craft their content to avoid it by testing against it. This problem extends to accessing third party tools, such as specialised tools Microsoft and Google provide for identifying and reporting CSAM content to authorities. They are generally unwilling to provision their service to small actors, IMO in an attempt to stop producers themselves testing and manipulating their content to subvert the tool.

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

I’m not saying people didn’t ever call me gay unkindly, but it wasn’t like that. People were more just surprised when I identified as straight, or when I didn’t show much interest in men.

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

I’m not sure if mine changed, but I gave off such strong queer vibes that everyone has assumed I was bi or gay since I started high school. I could tell that as well, but not in a cohesive way that I could label, so I just kinda settled on bi.

Anyway I realised I was trans and almost completely gay for women (plus I never had a particular genitals preference). So I guess people were right, just in the wrong direction!

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

This is the comment that tipped the maintainer over the edge:

ayan4m1

You should do a better job updating your documentation so that people do not waste their time like I did. This change to closed source was announced where, exactly? All of your READMEs and documentation sites do not mention this. Very easy to be confused and very disappointing to me that this went closed-source.

Not only did you sell out, you also removed all the old versions that were released under an open source license so that others couldn’t continue to use out-of-support versions. DISGUSTING.

tl;dr get off GitHub and npm entirely if you want to do the closed-source thing, kthx.

Which is incredibly disrespectful in my opinion, and this kind of entitlement is what makes me weary of starting any open source projects.

EmilyIsTrans, 17 days ago (edited 9 days ago)

Sorry if this is a dumb suggestion, but have you considered writing out what you want to say on a note and handing it to them? Coming out is hard, mine involved me blurting at my mother, flashing her, and running off. I guess I’m saying it doesn’t have to be perfect, as long as you do it when you feel ready.

EmilyIsTrans, 1 month ago

Seattle and Redmond. So Amazon and Microsoft?