I haven’t really contemplated that much. All of my partners over the years have come from in person interaction. Of course, I’ve never been on social media, so I’m sure my perspective is different.
I'm 35 and haven't really used social media except reddit in a decade+. Has had absolutely no effect on my dating life. I really don't know what social media would add to my dating life I guess? I wouldn't be looking for a partner on there. I'm a pretty social guy in general anyways so maybe that makes up for it.
I’m not currently active on dating apps, but when I last was a couple years ago, it wasn’t a problem. I’m findable online, since I have a blog and several professional profiles set up to make it easier to pass HR checks when applying for jobs, so that may have helped. But overall it hasn’t been a concern with any of my partners.
I’m 21 and single so I haven’t been in the before times for dating. It hasn’t changed anything really. If she ask for my Instagram and I say I don’t have one it’s usually “oh cool so you don’t use social media that much” or “haha so you’re off the grid” something like that and then it’s never really brought up again. If it does change something then stay away from a chick like that
Lot of these guys saying it doesn't matter cause they're married. My ex of 10 years cheated so no social media means I have nothing except my daughter and work friends.
I agree social media background checks are creepy so let that filter run. Focused on my kid so if that isn't good enough, it will be for someone eventually maybe.
Also only 32. There's always 2 sides of the story but every person that's left my life hurt me before doing it so trust issues abound means no real friends as an introvert anymore.
I’m hitting my mid 30s. I did a lot of dating on okcupid, and at school in my 20s, but during the pandemic I deleted my social media and dating apps and I haven’t been on a date since. Ive only had one real offer, but I wasn’t interested.
Social media has been really enshitified. When I was meeting people online, Facebook actually showed me my friends posts, and okc cupid was like, a list of people I could look at and message. Now OKC is a tinder clone, that is to say, a casino, and my facebook feed is choked with paid placements for Avengers trivia and AI generated soft core porn of angewomon.
Introverted late GenX/early millennial cis het male here. I didn’t date much, but I had a pretty evenly mixed and diverse friend group. It helps the most that I moved from a small town to a major metropolitan area, which greatly expanded my friend group. I met one girlfriend when she was visiting her cousin and we hit it off. I met my wife at a friend’s wedding, but we didn’t start dating until two years later.
My advice to younger ones looking for love is this: widen out your friend group. Diversify in age, gender, race, and culture of origin. Not to find romantic partners in those areas, but to widen your in-person social network. I learned so much about my own romantic needs through my friendships with others. I got called out on creepy behavior by friends that were girls, I got kind advice on grooming by older guy friends. I adjusted my behaviors through simple association. None of that would have happened if I had stayed in my comfort zone (playing Xbox with my fellow nerds). And as I met friends of friends, I sometimes clicked with one on a romantic level. Not many, and definitely not all, and sometimes I was rejected, but that’s life, right?
Today I’ve been married for over a decade. Some of the friendships I made have lasted, some have not. That didn’t make them less valuable. I acknowledge that I’m coming from a different era. The way I made friends may not work today. At the time it was organic. I recognized my own nature to withdraw from people, and actively worked against it. If an invitation came, I accepted. I don’t know if invitations would come today in person, but if you have some friends that are social media savvy that could be your in
Realized many years ago that social media was making me more depressive so I simply stopped interacting with it. Tried dating apps as well and had numerous issues with their reliability and lack of honesty.
I’ve found a community of people online that I interact with and that has made me content with being single.
It would be nice to get back into the dating scene but I don’t believe there is a way that makes me feel comfortable.
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