I used to use Goodreads, but switched to StoryGraph at the beginning of the year, and haven't looked back. The only time I refer to Goodreads now is when I want to know if a book in a series can be read standalone, since that's often mentioned in their question/answer section for the book, and it saves risking spoilers by reading reviews.
Though that said, I've yet to come across a spoilery review (that wasn't indicated as such) on StoryGraph...
I looked at BookWyrm, and did set up an account on an instance, but I prefer StoryGraph.
ETA: I haven't really looked at the recommendations feature on StoryGraph, so I can't help you with how well that does or doesn't work. My TBR is way too long already...!