I don’t know all the details of the drama but I’m sorry you haven’t had better interactions with hexbear. Some users can be problematic like any place, but I have been inspired by the effort, genuine good faith debate and historical analysis that is common in hexbear discussions. I’m anarchist, I first came to the fediverse through this instance and haven’t had any issue with hexbear, and personally would defed from .world before hexbear lol.
Can you clarify how hexbear facilities harassment? I’m not saying you’re wrong but I just don’t know what you mean. They have the_dunk_tank which you could argue does but they changed the rules to discourage dunking on anyone that isn’t a prominent voice, if there is harassment from users I haven’t seen the mods do anything to encourage it.