Remember that the egg must break from the inside, not the outside. Whether what hatches is the same or different, it doesn’t matter. It can only be more you.
celebrate your journey, but don’t force it on others.
you never crack anyone else’s egg. ever.
this also breaks one of the most important rules of the old egg_irl and i think it needs to be made explicit here. gonna have to play mommy and post a lets talk about rules post tomorrow, things have been getting a lil out of hand here lately.
Hi not exactly a femboy since I’m Agender but I do still use the label occasionally. This meme is very hurtful to gender non-conforming people, who are most certainly not trans girls in denial (especially transmascs and nonbinary people). It is important to respect people’s gender identities, and while I do understand that discovery is important I do not believe that people should have an identity forced on them, which is what you’re doing by saying that all femboys are trans girls in denial who need to be forced out. The thing is if we believe people are valid we need to listen to them and respect the gender they identify as and not systematically invalidate them based on their actions and argue that they are semantically trans or in-denial, I don’t know about you but I don’t want to live in a world with provisions to invalidate my identity because someone else thinks my actions don’t match some stupid preconceived notion of a gender.
Oh and before someone tries to argue that I’m a transphobe because “gender isn’t a choice” I will say that, yes Gender is not a choice but that doesn’t mean what most people think it means, it means that gender identity is internal and personal and can’t be changed by others pressuring you. It does not mean that a person who does X is semantically trans whether they like it or not. Gender identity is based on how the person feels, not what other people think of their actions relation to gender. So with that knowledge it is very clear that this post violates that principle by trying to force a gender identity onto someone who isn’t comfortable or okay with it, based on your opinion about them and your own past experience.
Thats very gender essentialist. Gender expression is not the same AS gender identity. Don’t push your own experiences on others. I for example never had a femboy-phase and am still trans femm. Does this make me less trans? A trans guy who likes dresses, is he less of a man? No! What about non binary people? You basically say that femininity is not for men which is bullshit. People don’t always know their gender or are exploring, but identity changes with your own idea of self. If you say “I’m a femboy” and then later on say “I’m a trans girl”, both are true because Identity can change! If you say I Identify as lesbian, later on then discover that ur bi, that doesn’t mean ur previous Identity was wrong, it just means that u now identify differently. If someone says they identify with a gender, than that’s that. You don’t get to tell them they are wrong.
That is such a load of shit and also very transphobic, identity can’t change, just because I was a stupid egg in-denial doesn’t mean I wasn’t a girl and doesn’t mean I wasn’t trans, you saying this implies that people weren’t really trans before coming out which is not only wrong but incredibly transphobic.
Look, Identity is what u identify as. If you identify differently then that’s ur new identity. If You say you are a trans woman and had a femboy phase where you were in denial, than your identity is a tran woman who was always a trans woman but was previous in denial. That’s a valid identity.
So let’s say there is a amab who likes feminine things. They get rejected by geneeal society, but feels comfy in queer settings. But now people say: Hey! Ur trans! Take hormones it will make you happy! There’s two ways this can go, but if it wasn’t completly their own decision but peer pressure. And peer pressure which changes your body for live is extremely toxic.
I understand that you are mad that there wasn’t somebody who told you: Hey, you are an egg, just accept yourself as trans, its okay to be trans. I wish that it was that easy. But after starting hormones, sometimes there are doubt’s “what if I’m not really tans”? etc. And if you can push the decision to other people that just makes it worse. " I only started hormones because of the other person, she told me I would be happier. I’m not happier, I hate her"
Being trans is about taking your future, your body, your Identity in your own hands. Giving a big fuck to society and proclaim yourself to the world. Its not about saying “this makes you trans”, " that makes you trans", its about “this makes me happy”
And please write stop writing that aggressive. I’m attacking your post, not you as a person. I will probably stop responding because it stresses me out.
An identity almost definitionally can change because it’s what someone identifies as. It’s not necessarily transphobic to believe that, again it’s all about letting people choose what makes them happiest!
It’s also fine to think that being trans is more than an identity, but that’s more of a theoretical or analytical (and complicated) discussion .
For political and simplistic purposes just allowing people to choose their identities has all the practical benefit we need.
Are there trans women who have previously experimented with being a femboy? Definitely.
Are there femboys that for one reason or another are actually trans but in denial? I’m sure they exist.
Is every femboy an egg? Hell no. There’s plenty that are happy with their gender identity. In fact, thanks to them being able to be in touch with their feminine side, they probably know pretty well if they feel like a man or a woman. Don’t push femboys to transition, but be supportive if they want to explore the possibility.
If you think you might be trans and are worried that you are faking it. You probably arnt faking it. People don’t unintentionally fake being trans.
Besides, there is nothing wrong with thinking you are trans and changing when you find a new label which you feel is more accurate. What’s important is that you feel comfortable with your decision. No one will persecute for thinking you are trans and changing your mind.
I want to say I don’t think worrying about faking is something anyone really needs to worry about. The only people I’ve heard tell people they were faking is truscums (they’ve told me that for being NonBinary). IMO identification is valid, if you identify as trans it’s enough, if you don’t that’s also valid, there’s no minimum criteria you need to meet to be valid in your identity.
Cracking someone else’s egg isn’t great, it violates the egg prime directive. People need to discover themselves on their own. I get that they say some people are “in-denial” and aren’t willing to come out but trying to force them will just make them resist harder, and make them want to do it less.
I feel like this meme must be satire in that regard, as these methods rarely work out as well as portrayed here.
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