FirstMajesticComet

FirstMajesticComet, 29 days ago (edited 29 days ago)

Cracking someone else’s egg isn’t great, it violates the egg prime directive. People need to discover themselves on their own. I get that they say some people are “in-denial” and aren’t willing to come out but trying to force them will just make them resist harder, and make them want to do it less.
I feel like this meme must be satire in that regard, as these methods rarely work out as well as portrayed here.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

Yeah seems like people always forget about transmascs for some reason.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

When I was young I was very rebellious and did not follow gender stereotypes, I had long hair and I dyed the ends bright red. People (my teachers) didn’t really like that and they often would tell me I must be a girl because boys don’t do stuff like that. I find that kind of funny because I did a lot of terrible things that according to their sexist logic girls wouldn’t do (like severing my chromebook from their enterprise enrollment (twice with two separate Chromebooks) so I could do what I wanted). Few years later I was diagnosed with an androgen deficiency and I would need to take testosterone or wouldn’t continue developing properly. I didn’t actually take it both because it made me feel sick and also because all the shit my teachers were saying made younger me think I was going on E and it would make me a girl. So I just didn’t take it, and still haven’t, that’s future Riley’s problem.

Years later in 2021 towards the end I learned about Agender and Isogender and those really resonated with me so I started using those but I also never really stopped identifying with male and still very often use he/him pronouns.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

Defederation evading?

That’s not a thing, people are allowed to be on multiple instances, if they weren’t that would go against the free and open nature of the Fediverse don’t you think?

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

It does sound like you might be a femboy, not all femboys are into fem clothes but you could also be Nonbinary, there are NonBinaries who still use he/him.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

I’m Agender and Isogender, definatey one of the more unique identities and gender modalities.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

Very interesting, I will definitely look into that so I can do it when it happens.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago (edited 1 month ago)

I think it’s harder than to just say they either 100% are trans or 100% aren’t because there are people who identify as neither, as an example I’m Isogender. To say people 100% are is invalidating towards those who identify as neither, and to say they 100% aren’t invalidates those who identify as trans. The real answer is that it’s complicated and dependent on the person.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

I think the best way of describing isogender is people who don’t feel connection to assigned-gender (the gender designated to them) but also don’t feel trans, the concept of AGAB is irrelevant to their identity and how they identify.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

I think that Isogender is still different from trans in different ways, even if some trans people have similar feelings of lack of AGAB relevance, Isogender people still aren’t trans because we don’t feel trans acurately describes us, it’s very much a self-identification type of thing, and since trans can have either very fine or very broad (up to all encompassing) definitions there can be a lot of overlap in similarities but they are still different modalities altogether.

Isogender is very rare so there aren’t very many accounts of the experiences of us, I’ve seen a handful of people talking about it but overall I only ever saw a handful of people on Reddit talking about it, and one, maybe two other people on the fediverse who identify as Isogender or one of the other Gender modalities.

I sort of understand the motivation, though - I think the most common meaning of trans I encounter strongly implies social and medical transition (along the lines of “transexual”, meaning people who transition to live as a different gender than they were assigned at birth). Someone who has some alignment with their AGAB might struggle to feel understood if they called themselves trans, for example, and that seems like a motivation for a new term (though I think a lot of people just use non-binary, genderqueer, or gender non-conforming in a case like that).

Yeah it has to do with differences in experience and identities. Even though there has been a lot of effort to expand and broaden ‘trans’ it still very much implies something that doesn’t resonate with a lot of these people, myself included, hence why other modalities exist.

That said, depending on the context trans may or may not have such a narrow definition. I often see it used as big tent umbrella term under which any gender non-conforming people belong, even otherwise cis-gendered and cis-sexual cross-dressers or drag performers. This is especially common among activists who rightfully are aware of the importance of political unity in fighting gender oppression and aligning disparate groups under a common banner.

I see the merit in that but at the same time I’m not really a fan of grouping people under one giant umbrella that also happens to be its own specific thing, i.e. there are trans people who are just trans, binary trans and nothing else. I think recognizing the differences in identities is just as important as the need to unify, and that’s why we added the Q+ to LGBT, for all those people with sexuality and gender identities that don’t necessarily align with the other 4 categories. Maybe to some this comes across as me trying to separate identities from trans, but I’m not, people can identify as trans if they feel its right for them, I just think they also should be able to not if it doesn’t and have that be respected and understood.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

I don’t have one yet, but I want to get one, they’re so cool. I’d probably either get a classic blue one or a purple one.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

Nope I’m happy the way I am, I used to be insecure about my appearance and wanted to look more like a real man (I look unusually young and androgynous due to a hormonal/genetic condition) but I don’t really feel that way anymore and am mostly okay with the way I am now.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

I’m AroAce-Agender, as well as Isogender. Though I also do say I’m a femboy (don’t ask how one can be a femboy without a gender, it’s complicated).

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

Hello I’d love to help out the community, I am currently a mod on !egg_irl and I also have experience modding back on Reddit as well.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

I don’t think I need to say this but you should not go cracking people’s eggs, it’s misgendering and disrespectful and also violates the Egg prime directive. Respect people as the gender they claim to identify as until they say otherwise.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

You could try making an account there and DM the admin directly, I think they have open signups, part of the reason they’re such a spam infested hellhole.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

Fair enough, I wasn’t really suggesting it as long term ownership, more throwaway that could be deleted afterwards but I guess it makes sense if you’re not using javascript that that can’t possibly work.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

You dumb fuck, you’re one of the transphobic trolls this post is bringing up, don’t bring that “defederation over opinions” talking point up in here, We all know you’re just scared they’ll defederate your spam hole, I hope they do for all our sake.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

I’d rather have the Adderall than E since I have ADHD.

(I actually do take Adderall for my ADHD)

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

I find it amazing that not only was the original comment not removed but that this person wasn’t banned from blahaj.zone for it.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

I personally don’t really like Matrix, I only joined it out of necessity and the whole keys things is uncomfortable and unintuitive.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

oh that’s good, maybe I’ll give it a shot then. Not sure if I can join though since my app is malfunctioning and the key export isn’t working (keys are needed for the blahaj mod chats I’m in since I mod egg_irl and a few other coms here)

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

I think both are cute either way.

I personally for me prefer the outfit on the left though since hoodies are warm and comfy, comfort > glamor IMO, that’s just me though.

FirstMajesticComet, 1 month ago

@Caitlyynn Heads up, I got a report from someone seemingly saying that you’re misgendering the OP by calling them sis. You’re not in trouble because it doesn’t seem to come from a place of malice but we do take gatekeeping and misgendering very seriously here, which is why I’m messaging you about this.

FirstMajesticComet, 2 months ago

They’re both cool but I prefer dressing as the first one. I just think it looks cooler.