One thing I’ve learned to live by is that just because something is free, I neither need to accept it nor like it. I’ve been pressured into situations I didn’t enjoy in the past and was guilt tripped when I wasn’t shooting sunshine and rainbows out my ass in gratitude.
I even tried turning the table, trying to force my father to do something he absolutely had no interest in but was interesting to me. He refused, despite my insistence. The next time he tried to guilt me into doing something I didn’t want to do, I reminded him of his response to my invitation. And you know what? It didn’t work at all, because my father is a selfish narcissist. So now I just tell him no, make it clear it’s non-negotiable and I refuse to discuss it any further, and hang up on him whenever he brings it up. It’s like training a toddler but, when adults act like toddlers, what else are you to do?