-Emma-

-Emma-, 4 days ago

I do advise keeping an eye open for opportunities elsewhere.

I have been wanted to evacuate soon, but my heart is pulling me in lots of different directions, and I don't really know which path to follow.

In the meantime, you're not going to be a fan of this advice, but discord is a good place to find communities.

Yeah, that's what my friend Lacey was telling me. I just can't do that right now. Making these posts is difficult enough.

Thank you for the well wishes.

-Emma-, 4 days ago

I appreciate the advice, but I would sooner harm myself than go back to facebook (sorry if that's too dark). If my choices in life are between being surrounded by friends while all interactions are monitored closely by facebook, or being forever alone and disallowed from human experiences, then there's really nothing here for me anymore. I hope it doesn't come to that.

-Emma-, 3 days ago

Hiya. It's kinda hard for me to pulll away from Matrix and the friends that I've made there, and I've not been good about remembering to come back here to the fediverse. I really created this thread looking specifically for people to meet offline. If you're looking for more offine friends, you might want to join us on Matrix.

Also, thank you for saying my name 😊 It feels so nice to see.

-Emma-, 2 days ago

Sending love and support to you and everyone stuck in Florida ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

-Emma-, 7 days ago

why hello there my super bestest best friend!! 🥰 i too love my family here on lemmy and matrix, and i wouldn't trade this for the world 💕 my parents are supportive and very helpful, but i rely on you and this family for the love and community that i really need ❤️ i love you so very very much 💗

-Emma-, 7 days ago

you are loved. never forget that Keris ❤️

-Emma-, 6 days ago

I'm so lucky to have you in my life now 🥰

We will take on this world together 💕

and nothing can stop us; the future is what we decide, what we make it to be.

❤️💖💗💖❤️

-Emma-, 12 days ago

I'm not sure where you are

I'm in southeast Louisiana. I've been doing laser for my whole body since I started HRT, but I've only done three sessions on my...delicate region. I'm just concerned about the permanence of laser and the wait for surgery. One of the reasons I'm considering evacuating to a safe state on the west coast is that I could hopefully have the surgery covered by my insurrance.

Was 4 months for the consultation and almost a year for the surgery.

I've heard some people suggesting that some surgeons have a wait list of three to five years, and I absolutely cannot wait that long. One year is already long enough to consider.

Thank you for your comment ❤️

-Emma-, 12 days ago

A small amount of hairs will always grow back.

Yeah, that's what I was saying on matrix is what concerns me. Like, I'm thinking I just want the most permanent removal possible. I'm such a perfectionist, and it causes bad thoughts to consider flaws and stuff. I really need to find a surgeon and go over this stuff. Also a therapist would probably help a lot right now..

-Emma-, 12 days ago

omg that is so good to know! thank you thank you! that is like the missing puzzle piece that actually calmed my mind about it. i should still get a therapist tho.

-Emma-, 11 days ago (edited 11 days ago)

yeah i've been doing the laser first just like you said. my doctor that prescribes my hrt is the one who does the laser, and she said i may need the electrolysis after laser is done. well at least for the remaining light-colored hairs. buy yeah, i can kinda work myself into mild panic and stress out enough to doubt myself. like a lot. lol

-Emma-, 11 days ago

damn, two therapists? this gate-keeping of healthcare is really exhausting and frustrating. exhaustingly frustrating. frustratingly exhausting. grrrrrrrrrrrrrr

-Emma-, 11 days ago

and you get the insurance immediately after moving if you are low income

I would guess that I'd need to actually have a residence there right? So like, if I can manage to rent a room, I'm good, but if I can't find a stable living situation it wouldn't count as having moved there?

I currently have Medicare, so I think everything should be covered if I can just manage to secure a residence.

-Emma-, 11 days ago

If you have insurance now, it might cover bottom surgery.

I currently have Medicare, so it looks like I am covered. 😊

You'll likely need two letters of support in order to receive coverage: one from your hrt provider and one from a mental health provider.

Well I do currently have a GP that prescribes my HRT and should be able to write me a letter, and I have a Psychiatrist who knows that the only reason I'm talking to him is to get the letter. So maybe I'm all set and don't need to rope a third person into this to get consent to alter my own body? (I cannot begin to articulate the level of rage that I feel about my lack of bodily autonmy)

-Emma-, 11 days ago

My surgeon did electro as part of the operation and I have had no problems over a year out with hair.

Wow, I had no idea this was even possible. I'm learning quite a lot recently.

what surgical technique interests you

I think you've already seen my messages about that in one of the Matrix chat rooms. If not, I can elaborate here or there.

how you're paying

I usually pay for things using cash that I withdraw from my checking/savings.

if you have insurance coverage

I currently have Medicare coverage.

how far you're willing to travel

If I need to flee the country, I'll do it.

what your cost limits are

I'm willing to empty my savings and, if necessary, sell access to my body. I need the surgery.

what you think about each individual surgeon

What I think I really need is to actually talk to one or more surgeons in-person so that I can know what to expect, and as I said before, I really don't wanna be on a waiting list for more than a year. That and the cost are the main reasons I'm considering evacuating to the west coast.

I'm hoping that I can get letters from my GP (who prescribes my HRT) and my Psychiatrist (who knows I'm only interested in the letter), and I figure that the letters do not expire and can be taken out of state if I evacuate. Is this correct?

Thank you for all of the help to start me off in my research. ❤️

-Emma-, 6 days ago

Unless you have fuck loads of cash I'd say settle in for the long haul and cope,

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unless you're like some boomer with a house?

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I take it you're in the US?

yeah, in the deep south 😢

Is there insurance that covers it maybe?

😢

Laser, you mean on face or genitalia?

everywhere. i'm pretty much done with face now and have been focusing on genital region. i'll be doing electro of remaining light facial hairs soon.

i've learned some good info from this thread, that laser isn't technically necessary, that electro is also not technicaly necessary, and idk. i've already paid for several sessions, so i'm gonna get 'em done and take it from there.

i wish this were easier. i wish that i could just push the button. i wish it didn't have to be this way.

thank you for your reply ❤️

-Emma-, 12 days ago

idk if it makes sense to repy to you here like this, since matrix is like my home now, but thank you very much for the support. it means a lot 😊 and yeah, if i don't have much luck in this specific community, i might cast a bigger net. we shall see.

-Emma-, 11 days ago

yes definitely. i wish the world were a nicer and safer place, but alas.

i've met someone from an online datin app before, so i'm not totally in the new here. of course i was still closeted back then, and it's very different now...but yeah, i know some public places to meet, and i would def make loved ones aware of my location and plans and stuff.

thank you for looking out for me 😊

-Emma-, 11 days ago

thank you for everything 🥰

-Emma-, 7 days ago

a very good friend indeed 😊 just don't get too distracted over there (kinda telling myself that too 😉)

-Emma-, 1 month ago

If my doctor and/or psychiatrist make me wait like that, I don't know what I'll do. I feel trapped here in this red state. And the way things are going in the US right now... it's troubling. But one way or another, I'm getting that surgery.