I can’t speak for other kids, but being honest with mine seems to work pretty well. “Why do I have to put away the dishes?” “Because if you don’t, we won’t be able to wash the dirty ones and then we’ll get roaches. Do you want roaches? No. So put away the dishes.”
They must be a chain smoker if they literally can’t get through a meal without smoking. I smoked a pack and a half a day back when I was a smoker and I could wait until I was done eating to light up.
Who I really feel bad for are her children. Can you imagine how much second-hand smoke they’re inhaling?