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Happy Hopeful: I found an awesome Primary Care Physician and he prescribed me Guanfacine! (youtu.be)

I’m feeling really excited and hopeful and nervous. I found an awesome doctor who is not part of some huge corporate medical conglomerate, is LGBTIQ+ safe and is relatively knowledgeable and accepting of Neurodivergence! I could cry. Only an hour away from me (lolsob) but is open to telehealth if a physical exam is not...

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Oh yes

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I always imagine being the kind of person who remembers these things but then I end up just tying a BFK and calling it a day

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Which is hilarious really because I always have my phone and could easily look something up. 🙄😅

Got my insurance quote for my diagnostic assessment

I’m paying for the low deductible insurance at my company (higher cost, supposed to be better benefits). I made an appointment for diagnostic assessment at the beginning of the year, their next available appointment was SEPTEMBER 30. They called me yesterday with the estimated cost to me after insurance (I mean nice that they...

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I do, that’s a good idea. I’ll look into it. Thanks

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I contribute to an FSA but my job does not bc they’re dumb in that regard, so I should have some funds in there as I haven’t been going to therapy all year basically despite thinking I would be and planning my contributions to include a copay for that. Buy I still think it will be several hundred out of pocket which I’m not sure I’ll be able to do as my savings got decimated this spring. I’m mostly just enraged that this isn’t covered more by insurance and it’s kicking my justice sensitivity rage into gear. I figured posting might be illustrative for those seeking a diagnosis and or those complaining about the rate of self diagnosis.

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I’m not being the change I want to see in the world for sure when I say this but I’m definitely scared to be “out” in any way regarding mental health struggles at work. The closest I’ve gotten is talking about anxiety and stress burnout, which I’ve been very careful to do in corporate-speak. I just feel like I can’t risk being seen as “at risk” of not being able to handle my work, even if that means I’m more at risk of that happening than if I was actually being supported. 😭

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Yeah I’m still moving forward with my search for a specialist in adult late diagnosed high masking twice exceptional AuDHD in women… ** Laughs sardonically **

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Thanks! I love a good wall of text from a genuine person. I go back and forth on whether a diagnosis is the right choice for me. I’m concerned about the ADHD diagnosis bc I do rely on my medication and worry that might be at risk without it. I’m really not concerned about if I do or don’t have the conditions - it’s clear and obvious to me now that I know about them both and I live my life as such, in the sense that I provide myself accommodations where I can. I’m not convinced it’s safe to be “out” at work, although I imagine a large percentage of my coworkers are likely spectrumed themselves being in engineering. I drop my little hints about “my brain prefers” this or that by way of explaining my quirks and especially now that I work remotely I am easily able to mask sufficiently for the corporate environment as just a quirky independent thinker.

Learning about ADHD and autism is definitely one of my main special interests so I spend a huge amount of time thinking about this and will definitely bring notes. I like your suggestions about relating to others and mentioning all my friends are ND as well haha.

I had not found Sam yet, so thanks for that suggestion. Ultimately I’m going to try being very choosey at finding providers bc being able to trust someone enough to be vulnerable is really freaking hard and if they don’t understand these Neuro types well enough they aren’t going to be able to help me anyway, even if they are well meaning. My last therapist was a really great lady who I liked a lot but she kept sending me worksheets meant for 9 year olds and had suggestions like using a planner so ┐⁠(⁠‘⁠～⁠`⁠;⁠)⁠┌

I’ve found more help and perspective listening to lectures on YouTube and even freaking therapy Instagram than any of my real therapy experiences and I’m a huge proponent of therapy for all. It’s just hard to find someone in my small state.

Anyway thanks for the comment! Have a great day

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Arrogant fucking humans. This story plays out every time. And they want to blot out the sun to control climate change… We deserve everything we get for our hubris. I can’t wait for humanity to collapse we are a scourge

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Rather negative lol

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Indeed. I’m often overwhelmed by my feelings of fear and anger. Reading this gave me such a sense of futility, like wow I must be destined to die a slow and painful death of cancer, if poverty or civil uprising doesn’t get me first. Discussion seems silly at this point. Capitalism has sealed our fate, there’s little we can do to protect ourselves and our loved ones in this environment. Everyone should be just as angry. To not be this angry one must be dissociating… Which is what I’ll go back to now until the next article wakes up my fear and anger again.

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Easy to say, harder to do

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I appreciate the pep talk. I’m an engineer in water resources and do my best to help where I can. Sometimes I have outbursts on the Internet and sometimes I fall into frighteningly deep depression. I removed my ability to have children in my terror of bringing life into a the world so dark. So it’s not one or the other -be angry and do nothing or have hope and work towards a better future. I’m very angry and very frightened and very jaded… And I’m doing what I can to hopefully prove myself wrong. I would very much like to be wrong. I don’t have much hope most days and do believe the planet would be much better off of humans were at least much reduced in number. But I have loved ones and empathy for strangers, as well as a sense of self preservation so I don’t relish the thought of suffering. Things can be more than one thing at the same time. I’m not sure how to develop hope, and I’m not sure how people like yourself still carry any, but I have the kind of steadfast resolve to help my fellow humans reduce their suffering at the end. There’s a great deal of good that humans can do as well, art, music, stories, love. Those are the threads that keep me bobbing close to the surface. But yeah, I avoid the news almost entirely except for a few trusted sources and what I can’t help but run across on Lemmy, etc. I’m too sensitive clearly

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I understand the intention behind when people say that “the doom and glom attitude is harmful to the fight”. I’ve heard it many times. But it’s kind of like telling a depressed person to just be happy. It’s like, oh wow never considered that k thanks I’m cured now /s. It’s just like hey fuck you for being depressed you’re killing the planet - it doesn’t do a while lot to help. I think you’re right of course. I still don’t know how to stop being overwhelmed and depressed by it all.

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Yeah maybe

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I love Natalie Wynn and Abigail Thorn, they both put out some of the finest philosophical content and contemporary analysis in existence. I watched everything I could find.

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I haven’t gotten any notifications about this and when I go into my account it still says my next payment is the same. Edit: God dammit just got it

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Never ever ever ever ever give your bosses more information than they need. “I have a personal appointment that cannot be rescheduled” “I’m not comfortable discussing that”

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Agreed. #3 doesn’t happen until enough people’s lives are impacted. That’s why the riots of 2020 happened - people were unemployed and had nothing left to lose in a lot of cases

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If you don’t get an enthusiastic consent, this person is not ready for sexual activity with you. Whether that be because they aren’t ready for sexual activity with you, or they are not emotionally mature enough to know not to play hard to get games. Our society may have taught them that playing hard to get is appropriate or even important - if not their parents then look to basically every rom com ever made 🙄, but it’s 2023 and a half now and it’s past time for our culture to grow up. Playing hard to get, saying no when you really want to say yes is not appropriate. The correct response to this behavior is to not engage with this person.

I would question if the commenter here talking about the numbers of women he has met engaging in these behaviors is being fully honest. If yes, Expect better of your potential partners.

Here’s a song that’ll help www.instagram.com/reel/Cu4zAwNMZql/?igshid=MTc4Mm…

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Define flirtation? How do you separate it from just having a nice conversation with someone? I’m also not sure how the ambiguity of interest when talking to someone is related to the conversation about consent surrounding sexual activities.

The law also doesn’t criminalize consensual sexual activity between similarly aged minors. Certainly not a couple 17yo’s. Sipping wine doesn’t mean you can’t drive a car so it doesn’t incapacitate you from making a consensual sexual decision. Besides the fact that the law is not really what we’re talking about here. The law will always be imperfect. We’re talking about being real here. Being a real human being who sees other people as human beings and wants to do the right thing.

And to your last point, I can’t speak to different cultures. But I would be against sexual acts that don’t confirm enthusiastic consent no matter what culture someone is from. Ultimately your language comes across like that of someone who has studied dating academically without much practical experience. I’m not really sure what your point is after all of this. That we shouldn’t worry about consent from our partners? It feels a little trollish to expect anyone to just be like yeah ok

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