bluecat

bluecat, 6 months ago to random

Every time I ask a question of my professor this semester (thesis proposal course), she makes me feel like a moron. She doesn't outright tell me I'm stupid, but her responses are short and blunt and I don't know how to explain it but it makes me feel like I shouldn't have asked.

I'm not saying I deserve a cookie or a pat on the head for asking a question, but past professors were encouraging, like "great question, lets post it in the discussion board in case any other students are wondering about it." And it makes me feel like... I'm not an idiot?

I can not wait to be done with school I really am at the end of my rope with school. I will be finished in May and I'm worried I won't even make it. >.<

bluecat, 11 months ago to random

Trying to be excited that I'm flying back to America in three days to spend six weeks there and finding that I'm....

Just not excited to go to America. >.<

bluecat, 6 months ago to random

I ordered something from the US and had it sent to my parents address. I paid for it and whatever.

My mom just sent a box of christmas presents for my kids and one for me, wrapped in Christmas paper, with "From: mom and dad" and a winky face on it.

It was the thing I had bought myself.

My mom re-gifted my gift to myself to me.

🤨

bluecat, 6 months ago to random

I am currently tears level overwhelmed and I am not much of a crier these days so... it's bad.

When I get this overwhelmed (I legit just have too much to get done right now in not enough time), it affects everything else. My memory turns to shit, and my body feels awful, and my mood is like... totally unsalvageable and I just feel like an absolute total failure at everything.

What do you do? Please tell me what you do to help yourself when you feel like this because I am really on the struggle bus right now.

plznthx

bluecat, 7 months ago to random

Target number: 99

Add multiples of 7 to multiples to multiples of 25 to get the target number.

My eight year old daughter just asked me how to do this math and... I don't get it.

Why doesn't this make sense to me?

You guys thought I was kidding about that 95% wait wut but no. No I'm really not.

bluecat, 6 months ago to random

Waking up to texts from my parents like…

bluecat, 7 months ago (edited 7 months ago) to random

My daughter told me today that I'm cool. That the music I listen to is always cool. That my drawings are cool. That everything about me is cool.

As someone who spent her entire childhood being called a dorky nerdy loser, and experienced severe bullying all through middle and high school, I never even know what to say when my daughter tells me this. I still feel like the same socially awkward, introverted, worried dork I always was.

Tonight she told me "even the TV shows you watch are cool!"

I was watching Iron Chef.

bluecat, 6 months ago to random

Fellow cat owners:

What is the appropriate response when your cat brings you a gift?

At least once a day, my cat will begin meowing crazily and then bring me one of his toys. He will drop the toy at the door of the room I'm in, or by my feet, or by my bed and then stare at me with huge round eyes.

How do I respond so that he knows I appreciate his thoughtfulness (lol). I used to pick up the toy and throw it for him to chase, but he doesn't chase it, so now I feel like maybe he thinks I don't like his "present". I'm legit worried he will think I'm ungrateful.

I usually just say, "Aw, thank you! You're so nice!" but he just continues to stare at me like he's expecting some other response.

PlEaSe HeLp.

bluecat, 3 months ago to random

My grandma makes the best chocolate chip cookies. She is 92. She has been making these same cookies for decades upon decade and they appear at every family gathering and are devoured.

I am in the US this week and she brought the cookies to family dinner. We noticed significantly less chocolate chips. One cookie even had NONE. When asked why there were so few, my grandma told me, “I was told by someone that my cookies had too many chocolate chips in them. So now I put less.”

EXCUSE?!

The entire family was shocked and outraged (especially me). How DARE some interloper interfere with a time honored cookie recipe?!? HOW. DARE.

bluecat, 7 months ago to random

My husband asked me if he should upgrade to Windows 11. All I did was shrug my shoulders because I have no opinion and I don't care what he does.

Now he's haranguing me about how bad it is, but like, I never said it was good. 🤷‍♀️

bluecat, 9 months ago to random

The bathroom ceiling in my hotel room just CAVED IN.

bluecat, 10 months ago to random

My absence of new posts is due to being not only home in America for the summer, but that most of my mental capacity is being used to survive staying at my family home where I have already been subjected to three racist and bigoted commentaries and been triggered over my parent speaking to my children the way I was spoken to as a child which bothers me more than I thought it would.

I am struggling, especially without being able to talk to my husband who is on a navy ship with no cell signal for the week.

bluecat, 1 year ago to random

I like a good, tidy server rack as much as the next person but for the love of all that is holy please do not put zip ties around the cable bundles. Who does that!???!!

bluecat, 3 months ago to random

Went into Target in the town I went to high school in and made it out without accidents bumping into any ex boyfriends or high school classmates. 🥳 #winning

bluecat, 8 months ago to Cybersecurity

My good friend has a tech savvy son graduating from college this spring who is really interested in cybersecurity but is currently doing social media marketing as an intern (no option to stay on).

He was originally in a cybersecurity program at his school, but he switched to marketing... but he's still interested in cyber.

She was asking me my thoughts on the chances of him landing a job in cyber and I wasn't even sure what to say. As much as we need people in cyber, I didn't want her to have any false expectation that it would be easy for him to land a job, as I've seen so many students who actually have completed cybersecurity programs struggle to find work too.

But I don't want to discourage him either, because the need for people in tech is great, and he's a super smart kid.

What do you tell ppl in these situations? What advice is best?

#cybersecurity #cybersecurityprofessional

bluecat, 8 months ago to random

Dear training video: do not make me click on the icon to hear the information. Just fucking tell me the information.

bluecat, 7 months ago to random

Whenever an assignment gives a number of pages range - like... 5-10 or 10-20 (like my current assignment), I always feel I have to land somewhere exactly in the middle of the range so it seems like I'm doing more than the minimum but not trying to show off or talk too much.

Is this a Capricorn thing?

bluecat, 11 months ago to random

Poorly taken back stage pic! Soundcheck done! I haven’t performed in front of people in about 20 years 🫠

bluecat, 3 months ago to random

Found this photo of me from when I was doing work study for the UMaine wood composites center. Only, I was just an office aid. But there were high school kids coming in for a tour and they wanted to make bookmarks for the kids to take home and none of the real scientists wanted to be on the bookmarks so they put a hard hat and goggles on me and told me to “pretend to know how to use the machines” and so a bunch of high schoolers got to take home bookmakers with my imposter ass on them. What a time to be alive.

bluecat, 7 months ago to random

As an ex-pat from the US I get asked by foreigners from all over the world “why is the US so obsessed with guns?” To which I have no answer. I can’t count how many times I’ve replied “oh well, where I live in the US it’s pretty safe, though.”

But it’s not. I grew up with the guy who just shot up mid-Maine.

bluecat, 7 months ago to random

I’m one follower away from the question why the eff would 1k ppl follow me? 🤔

bluecat, 7 months ago to random

I’m at a hair appt waiting for my color to process and forgot to bring a book so I have a lot of time to shit post this morning. 🤷🏻‍♀️

bluecat, 8 months ago to random

This past weekend my husband was very ill. But the library books were due. He was extremely concerned that I would not be able to get them back to the library on my own (because Korean confusion). I insisted I am a big girl and can be responsible.

As I was leaving he handed me the library card as if he were passing over the One Ring. I got mad.

I spent the next five minutes telling him that I was a grown ass woman and he needed to stop treating me like I can't take care of things and be responsible and accountable because I've never done anything to prove that I'm not and the world does not in fact end when he spends every other week out at sea and I'm home alone with the kids.

I then turned around to leave for band practice, grabbed the door handle and pulled in instead of pushing out. The door handle (metal) broke off in my hand.

My husband asked me "why did you pull the door in!?"

Brandishing the handle in his face I said, "well now I feel pretty dumb."

bluecat, 5 months ago to random

GD I clicked on this article link even though I have megalohydrothalassophobia and I almost threw up when I saw the artwork in the article.

ttps://www.bbc.com/news/science-environment-67650247

bluecat, 27 days ago to random

My daughter came home and told me her friend dumped her because she’s too bossy and I opened my big stupid mouth and said something like “well your other friends have also said they felt you were bossing them around, so what’s going on that everyone still feels this way?” And she ran down the hall screaming “HOW DARE I TRY TO TALK TO YOU AND EXPECT YOU TO MAKE ME FEEL BETTER YOU DONT UNDERSTAND ANYTHING!”

Then she locked me out of her room (she’s 10)

Sorry but what is the universe on today? For real though.

🤦🏻‍♀️