I like Sway, it obviously needs a bit of configuration to be useful, but that’s partly what I like about it, and using a distro like Guix (Nix configured with Lisp) makes it easy to have the same settings on multiple PCs. Otherwise I like GNOME; it’s well supported and has many good apps. Touch/touchpad support is really good as well.
I agree with the other commenter recommending to migrate as soon as possible while the kernel still does support, but that does seem like a workable strategy if you can’t for the foreseeable future.
Use an old kernel version (if yours doesn’t still support it) and something like btrfs-convert to get a maintained filesystem instead. Works pretty well in my experience with converting other filesystems to btrfs.
I don’t live with them since last fall, but I go back on occasion. Getting the space to just exist in my own home has given me room to start validating my own identity as trans. I have thought about it, and I’ll probably start writing up something tomorrow to send to them. I feel like I have a lot of mental inertia, which I have to overcome. I’ve hid this for 11 years, if not longer, with occasional blips of just not being able to do it and not feeling understood as a result. Overcoming this inertia by re-engaging with it has been hard, because I get really anxious every time I have to confront it, but doing breathing exercises, listening to trans-affirming ASMR, and meditating feels like it’s helping.
I get some mixed signals from my parents, but I think they’re generally supportive. My mother has misgendered some trans celebrities on occasion, but this may just be down to change being tough.
I’m looking to shop for some clothes, and I might ask a cis woman I know for tips, who I also know is supportive of her other trans friends. I’ve discussed queerness before and helped her realize she was bi when talking through it. Kinda make it a two-in-one, coming out and getting clothes I actually like. She’s also been quite supportive of my gender non-conformity before, so I think she could be a good ally :)
Thank you for all your wonderful responses! I’ll probably need to digest them a bit. I’m doing work on just normalizing the thought to myself, gonna try to write up a draft to send to my parents. <3
I bet it was still important as a gesture of solidarity, and it’s also valid to go home if it’s not worthwhile. Supportive people really inspire hope in me, and I think it’s that way for a lot of other trans people, too :)
I hate to add to the negative responses here, but this was my experience. Due to really bad gender dysphoria, I felt I could not go, because I feel like breaking down every time I wear a suit. I skipped it altogether due to the quite restrictive (cis-normative) dress code. Going as a man with a woman would make me really sad. I went to quite a few parties after with cool people, though, and those were really fun, so I guess that’s what counts.
I think this is why it’s helpful to think of it, not as a ‘why’, but as a ‘how’. There are tons of things about our bodies that do not make sense, but which hasn’t killed us enough to not spread. These can still have an effect on us, and that’s what’s interesting to me.
Trying to get a reason out of evolution can be useful sometimes, when we actually want to know what lead to a trait becoming common, but for most things, especially concerning humans, the ‘how’ is so much more interesting, because we can actually get concrete answers to that.
I second rusticl, but I’d like to note that it uses Gallium internally, and not Vulkan. There is a vulkan-gallium translation layer called Zink, though, which can be used to run rusticl on any Vulkan-capable GPU AFAIK. Zink is initially made to run OpenGL on Vulkan, but it’s also just a general-purpose Gallium driver.
Yeah, sometimes people use loli stuff which is definitely a red flag for pedo behavior IMHO, but posting with a MILF is quite literally the opposite xd.