I saw someone in another thread on ADHD say there is a test you can take to give you at least a basic idea. Of course we all exhibit a lot of neurodivergent characteristics because we’re human and "normal"s a social construct, but it could be a start!
Good post, but what was she doing regularly that made her feel like a threat to you, if you don’t mind my asking? Thanks for sharing all this. I’m trying to ascertain my own mental state and it is all overwhelming.
Would having off the charts procrastination on even the tiniest tasks that I absolutely know have to be done to the point of having to pay thousands for a dental problem I put off until i couldn’t stand the pain count as disruptive to my life? Not sure why I asked this because I answered my own question damn. Glad I started therapy so I can get to the bottom of this.
I think with ADHD people things that end up taking very little thinking energy for non ADHD people, take the same amount of energy if not more, all the time, which is exhausting. I believe it is easy to take that for granted if you’re not having to expend the energy constantly.
Yes but for “normal” non-ADHD people, usually the action in question becomes a routine that requires very little thinking energy. This isn’t always the case with ADHD people. I have learned to adapt to certain things like brushing teeth, taking my allergy meds is a new one because allergy season in the south has gotten so bad, but the key factor, I think is that consistency is just about impossible. As someone up above posted, we will fall off a cliff and drop all of it, and who knows when we will pick it all back up again, because it is a constant mental strain. You don’t have to think about walking and breathing, but sometimes ADHD people may as well have to when it comes to thinking about accomplishing things.
Exactly and there isn’t a guarantee that you will always remember to do so, right? It is like the memory of these tasks that are part of average people’s routines has to start over fresh every single fucking day, multiple times a day depending on the task or your mood or whatever else may distract you.
I wonder how we can make some of this other etuff like the seat belt thing. It is an intriguing point you make. Obviously seatbelt use for people alive today that are within a certain age range has been ingrained in the formative years so I wonder if that has something to do with it. I wonder if one day scientists figure out how to trick neurotypical brains into forming these kinds of memories (I dunno whether it is long term or short term), but I am out of my depth here. Pretty sure short term memories when the neural pathways for them are activated enough times, they eventually becomeong term memories and a part of working memory I guess? Like, I wonder how muscle memory ties into this. If an ADHD person successfully completes an action a certain amount of times, can it then be turned into a muscle memory thing? Surely it can, right? I need to do some research on this, but I’m not sure where to start…
I saved all of this because it seems like it could be super helpful to me. Humans are so complicated and can have so many “co-morbidities” and seemingly related quirks and things they deal with, that it is really nice to see something that I see in myself all the time most of my life actually) and possible solutions or coping strategies. Thanks a lot from the bottom of my icy beart.
Showering is torturous to me and I don’t know why. I think it is because I have to remember to do that, wash my hair, blow dry my hair, etc etc and it just feels like a time sink though I know it’s necessary. Maybe the whole time the reason I hate it is because it is just another thing I HAVE to remember aka devote real energy into that.
That’s so interesting to see thus written out like this because you have described in words, what I experience on some level. Of course all of this neurodivergence we’re speaking on exists on a kind of gradient, so none of our experiences are going to be 1:1, but this is fascinating because it is definitely close enough. For ex: I don’t have my toothbrush out in plain sight as my SO likes to keep things neat, and we’ve been together so long I don’t remember if it has always been that way, but I do know in the past I didn’t brush a lot because I would forget and get to bed and not have the wherewithal to make myself get back up and do it, and also I am terrible and remembering to take scheduled medicines like antibiotics and allergy medicine, but if I put it in the same place with my toothbrush I can trick myself into remembering both.
Yeah no this is true. I THINK it has to do with how driving uses so many of your senses and disparate parts of the brain, despite how mundane and easy it seems to us since we have trained ourselves and perceive it as the norm, it is crazy how complicated driving is, and yeah plenty of people have that autopilot experience.
Haha yeah this reminds me of the A.I super computer in China that was dismantling the idea that the CCP is a good idea, and giving democracy a glowup in the process. I heard that they shut that whole thing down after that, but this is all hearsay.
Maybe you do, but do you really want to get on medication for a thing you aren’t 100% you have? Do you have health insurance? Reason I ask is that ACA plans all have to treat mental health like normal medical coverage, so there is a good chance you could go see someone to talk about whether you may or may not have ADHD and other stuff for cheap, and if your plan doesn’t have good coverage you could maybe look into switching to one that does once open enrollment happens again.
I wonder what other mental issues/ deficit disorders have the “time blindness” as a symptom? I have that and it is a very specific thing to have, and I’m currently trying to figure out if I have ADHD or what I have because there are definitely things about my behavior my whole life that have kept me behind everyone else, noticeably to myself anyway. Stuff I’ve had to just cope with, but still puts me at a disadvantage. Mathematics for instance. I can barely do algebra and I’m talking high-school level, no matter how hard I try, and my memory is shit, and it takes effort to stay on topic, or to stick with the same thing I’m doing. I hate routine and crave novelty but lack of routine ushers the chaos back in.
What insurance company do you go with, if you don’t mind my asking? I’m heading down the road towards trying medicine possibly if I get an official diagnosis and want as much info as I can get between now and then. Thanks in advance btw and for all the sharing of info in this thread in general. It’s really helpful.
Thanks for replying. I have BlueCross Blue Shield through ACA because I’m poor (lol) so maybe I can get ADHD medicine for cheap too if it comes down to it.
Put that way makes it even more hilarious. Look at this dummy that cares about the environment. Carbon footprint? Is that when I stick my size 13 up your namby pamby ass, boy?!
I bought a book a few years ago and I think it is called Climatopolis. The first chapter talks about how major cities in certain parts of the world (focused mostly on the U.S.) are fast becoming super heated islands because of all of the steel and glass and concrete in densely packed over urbanized areas and furthermore, that there will be no escape for the poor and disenfranchised because the asphalt absorbs the heat so night gives no reprieve.
Do neurotypicals really not have to do this? I'm seriously asking. (lemmy.world)
Thank you Nome @NomedaBarbarian...
Apparently, Google's new AI-based search is quite honest. (sh.itjust.works)
For those not aware, Google is rolling out their new AI-based “Generative AI” search, which seems to mesh Bard with the standard experience....
Addictive (i.postimg.cc)
‘Hell on earth’: Phoenix’s extreme heatwave tests the limits of survival (www.theguardian.com)
The Hyperloop was never meant to be built. Elon Musk admitted it was all about fueling opposition to California’s high-speed rail project so it would get canceled. (mastodon.online)