That’s exactly how I feel! I think it’s compounded by living in a rural area. I want to fit in not only because that’s my childhood dream but also for a sense of safety. I’m not sure what the answer is either. Maybe this is just a stage of transitioning or maybe it’s possible to form strong bonds with allies, eventually, the way it seemed to feel easier with queer people before. I just know that I feel lonely at the moment and the queer community as a whole has seemed more distant to me.
Thank you it already seems to be a welcoming space! I agree that queer spaces should be more accepting of, for lack of a better word, conforming individuals. My style is somewhat subdued, and I admire and appreciate the diversity of style in the queer community, but I just wish it didn’t seem like a requirement to stand out.
I’m so sorry about your experiences in straight spaces. It’s so easy to be respectful of someone’s identity and does so much harm to not be… I’m angry for you!
I agree about how cisheteronormativity needs to be deconstructed and I probably wouldn’t be friends with anyone that says that straight culture doesn’t have problems. In the end, I think it’s up to each het individual to parse which parts of the culture are problematic. It’s not like I can change my sexuality anyways, and I’ve definitely tried lol.
I’m finishing up a pair of socks at the moment! I’ve got a few things on cables or lifelines though, like a pink pig which would be my first stuffed animal!
“nope”! I love it! Lol identity is a fucking trip. It’s so amorphous, just as you find the words to describe it you realize you haven’t looked at it from a particular angle or accounted for certain behaviors or feelings.
Sometimes I feel like I'm transitioning out of being queer
Where are all my transhet sisters?...