pexavc

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pexavc,

Only on Reddit for a couple communities. But, Lemmy kind of became my main Social site overall. Replaced all of them for me.

pexavc,

My saves are getting monopolized by your memes 😂

pexavc, (edited )

Yeah. I have found the simple act of “listening” goes so far. I had a manager whom always remembered the smallest things. Bring them up in team meetings months later. It was very motivating.

Edit: and obligatory, F*ck Cancer

pexavc,

Had a similar experience. Definitely agreed.

pexavc, (edited )

It definitely makes sense. and that’s what makes it more complicated. because it is also hard to relay context to get second opinions. sometimes what’s left is personal reflection, but practicing how to remove self-bias and not re-adjusting past memories to fit an argument is very difficult.

Thank you for listing those categories, it’s nice seeing them out in print to properly remember.

pexavc,

This is great. It’s a nice little addition to a list of gratitudes.

pexavc, (edited )

can manage is to find fault with a self-serving characterization of a falsely dichotomous opposing position. So they need to be able to assign me to one or the other team

Oh wow, this is kind of what I have experienced. The tougher part for me, it was someone that wasn’t a stranger. It made me self-doubt intensely. And I resorted to doing the same, without thinking that I changed myself completely at the moment. Pointing out flaws rather than bringing it back to the main “issue”. (I never am one to “confront”, so it felt like a new frontier).

Cutting ties with these types, has probably been the biggest mental improvement I have had. And a huge boost in most other aspects of my life. But, I still have these self-doubt questions. But, this time around trying to discover those answers via the suggestions/similar strategies listed in this thread, I feel is much healthier moving forward.

And to go all the way back, it could be said that the exact problem is that they have unfounded confidence.

And it’s sort of ironic really, because they’re generally driven by a psychological need to be right, and clinging desperately to one fixed position pretty much guarantees that right is the one thing they will not be.

This is all spot on to be honest

And to go all the way back, it could be said that the exact problem is that they have unfounded confidence.

I definitely have unfounded confidence as well, but am one to internalize all the causation or experiences that aggravate it. Leaning on those I view have “resolved” those issues I see in myself.

And it’s sort of ironic really, because they’re generally driven by a psychological need to be right, and clinging desperately to one fixed position pretty much guarantees that right is the one thing they will not be.

Which is why when I see traits like this, I tend to mirror thinking its the correct approach. Instead of realizing the flaws of absolutism.

pexavc,

that’s the time to reëxamine what you just said

yeah this is definitely hard, I feel like sometimes it is hard to see what caused it. or overthinking on what is it that provoked. and then focusing on probably the wrong causation and then basing everything afterwards on that.

Genuinely asking, Do you usually ask for clarification even on that or not? I feel it would make it worse, “What did I do, to make you say that just now to me?” I would normally think it comes off as arrogant.

someone disagrees, try to politely ask why. Most people are willing to explain where you fucked up a long as you don’t get defensive.

Yeah, the problem is sometimes, the experiences don’t match up properly and the explanation will still not fit the reason for disagreement. Navigating past that, is really difficult. Because I feel it then becomes a battle of egos. Because all points on the table, self-included, will not fit the solution. But, I guess maybe in these situations a third party is necessary?

pexavc,

Yeah, I also tend to log everything that is supporting my argument. But, it definitely feels like it could be worse “gathering evidence” sometimes. Especially if the topic is around self-improvement rather than something objective.

pexavc, (edited )

Edit: tbh, I see how the question is framed as a general question too.

I think overall, therapy is a great solution. I wish it was easier to start the process in the states. Surprisingly I haven’t had any experience truly understanding anti-depressants or being close to those that took them and were open talking about them. I wish I knew more about their effects on how they help with self-assurance.

pexavc,

Removed the other comment.

Because I think I get the point now. I actually never heard of these services before. And didn’t realize people liked to share their “saves/bookmarks”. Or have people actively follow what they are bookmarking.

It’s super interesting.

pexavc, (edited )

I’ve had an idea, that I could easily pivot to this and become a FOSS solution. But, I wonder if it actually solves a problem. Essentially, I wanted my lemmy instance to allow sign-ups. But, the posts and channels were auto-generated. So when you log into the app or sign-up it creates a community in the instance along with it. (loom.nyc/c/pexavc) and then all the posts are automatically generated from the posts you save anywhere in the fediverse. (The app supports lemmy and mastodon for now). But, this would also allow all your bookmarks to essentially “federate”.

Edit: Tbh, it sounds like a more “silent” cross-posting

pexavc,

Ah yes! I almost do that already. With RSS as well. So you can combine communities and RSS Feeds, not mastodon users yet though. It’s kind of fun standardizing all the different ActivityPub implementations into a single data model. Mastodon timelines or users are essentially whole communities.

To be honest, building a web-version of that pipeline as a NPM package might be helpful for others, piping in all the different types of fediverse content into a single stream.

pexavc,

Awesome! How is it coming a long so far?

pexavc,

That’s really cool

pexavc,

Yeah noticed it too. For some of them. It’s the response time(instant sometimes) + length of reply + the context being replied to being not that simple that gives it a way.

pexavc,

StarCraft 2

Mostly for building in-game awareness. Helped in a lot of games, even FPSs. Just always being proactive when facing some kind of meta.

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