@grimalkina Related wavelength: I was reading K-Punk (aka Mark Fisher) last night and he mentioned imposter syndrome without naming it as such, but quite clearly naming underlying causes. Downright revelatory: https://chaosfem.tw/@johana/112557323320388529
@grimalkina Anyhow, I appreciated his concept of disavowed fascism/homophobia. In other areas I’ve encountered this as negative epistemology, the process through which people in privileged positions construct ignorance of the other, and when I encounter it next I’ll be able to tell myself, "ah, this is disavowed ableism." Naming the problem doesn’t fix it, but it does greatly increase my capacity for self-control when I bump into it.
I can't figure out if this is a good blogpost topic or not, but I've been thinking about how many conversations I see about human behavior in software overindex on like, differences between people* and not within-individual variation**
Overall malleability of our own traits and states over time is fascinating and underexplored in a very essentialist kind of culture***
"all managers are like x"
** "some days I am like x and some days I am like y"
@grimalkina No, this would be helpful. <oversharing>I'm late-diagnosed autistic, and when I finally figured it out, I thought that if I was just honest about what I was struggling with, my management would find ways to support me. Instead, it just set me on a different struggle track with managers who just want teams of "Type A" team players, and don't recognize that sorta difference as a potential strength.</oversharing>
@JoscelynTransient like my most significant relationship both of us went in "cis" and came out of the whole experience trans af. (We were also hella gay for a "straight" couple.)
