I do have to come to homeboys defense. She heard bussy and though he was picturing a twink. While that’s fine and dandy if that’s what he’s into, maybe he was actually thinking about bears. Sounds like she’s the issue cause she thinks we can only be twinks. My beard says otherwise.
Disclaimer: this isn’t really my thing, so I have kind of an outsider’s understanding and may be incorrect. I’m sure someone will be happy to correct me if I’m wrong about something.
Ok, let’s break this down a little. First of all: boy pussy, or “bussy”, is not an actual biological orifice that exists, as you may have guessed. Rather, it’s a slang term meant to convey the metaphorical sexual concept that a male asshole - usually belonging to a sub/bottom or twink (but the term can apply to anyone willing) - has become an erogenous zone, possibly (depending on usage in dirty talk) that it will never again fulfill any other purpose.
Naturally, since it is a BOY pussy, it’s not something that you would find on a woman, so the man in this story, while having sex with his wife, let slip that he was fantasizing about having sex with someone else. This does not seem to be her issue, as she mentions that they are at least somewhat in an open relationship and so him having sex with another woman would not be out of the question. However, she seems to take offense at the idea that he is fantasizing about having sex with another man, which is not something they would presumably have discussed prior to opening their relationship.
Even if he likes men, and she knew, being told that you’re thought of as the gender you’re not isn’t something most people want. Calling a girl a dude when they identify as a girl isn’t exactly flattering.
Okay fr, i think bussy also may refer to intersex vagina. I think sex slang is often described only along heteronormative boundaries and it can get annoying and confusing.
That’s interesting! I’ve only ever seen it as slang for boy and/or butt pussy. I will fully admit that you’re correct in that these terms tend to fall along the heteronormative gender divide and I try to keep these explanations as gender neutral as possible (though there’s only so much you can do with “boy pussy”), so I’ll keep that in mind for the future. Thank you.
My results would be invalid because I don’t participate in open relationships.
I don’t have anything against such an arrangement, but I know myself, and knowing that my partner may be out, sleeping with another person would make me a very jealous person; normally, in a closed relationship, unless there is some kind of evidence of infidelity, I’m not jealous at all. I don’t look for such evidence, and I do everything in my power to trust what my partner tells me as truth. My most significant rule in a relationship is that I will not lie to them about anything that matters, nor will I tolerate being lied to about the same. I’m up front about this arrangement with anyone I get involved with.
I have been in relationships where I’ve been lied to, and I have been in situations where there has been infidelity in the relationship (or at least, evidence it did or will happen). I did not like the person I became. So I tend to avoid situations where I could become that person.
I have not, nor would I allow myself to be in an open relationship. As such, I do not possess the mental fortitude to deal with my partner having intimate relationships with others. It’s a character flaw that I don’t seem to be able to get over, so I avoid it. Since I am not in an open relationship, it would not be a valid comparison, since there’s factors in the OP that I cannot satisfy, and the results would not reflect a comparible situation.
All I can say is that I would imagine that in an open relationship, such things would be reacted to differently than in a closed relationship. Since I do not have the requisite experience necessary to know those differences, instead, I asked.
Instead of a genuine response I get sarcastic and snide replies about “how would you feel?”, when I have no basis for comparison.
Saying “that boy pussy” might not be about another person, so I’m also not sure this should actually be offensive. He might just be thinking about anal sex while he is in a vagina.
I’m making a big assumption though:
women can have a boy pussy since they also have an anus
I don’t understand the problem. Obviously, it’s not for you, but why do you care what other people’s relationships look like when you aren’t a part of it?
Because it’s innately unhealthy, but more specifically I don’t want to be pressured into cheating on my partner or vice versa because it’s become the norm
I fail to see how someone else’s private relationship defines yours in any way. This sounds less like you have a problem with other people, and more like you have trust issues, whether towards yourself or towards your own partner. Either way, your relationship has nothing to do with anyone else’s, just like theirs has nothing to do with yours. If you don’t want to cheat on your partner, then don’t cheat on your partner.
Yeah thats why you make sure to NOT talk about your feelings like this “concerned” person. If you have problems in a relationship, it is important to talk to anyone but your partner. Best thing to do is, get some advice from complete strangers who do not know you or your partner and have very limited and skewed information. This way you will surely get the right answers! /s
Of you really think about something, somewhere Gary Busey has to do with it. In a weird Busey way, of course, but there is done relation between every single thing in the universe and Gary Busey. Thanks wishes to be him.
🙄 this is why I only date bisexual women. If I said this to any women I’m in a relationship with she would probably say something like, “fuck you” then peg me while annoying asking if I got the pun.
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