LallyLuckFarm

@LallyLuckFarm@beehaw.org

Small scale permaculture nursery in Maine, education enthusiast, and usually verbose.

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LallyLuckFarm,

I’m wishing your friend a speedy recovery, neighbor.

LallyLuckFarm,

Every one I’ve ever met has been, for sure.

LallyLuckFarm,

I feel that - “guys” is a familiar enough habit that it still takes conscious effort sometimes to use “folks”. “Pal” in my experience comes across a lot like “champ” and doesn’t help the conversation.

My grandmother used to scold me that I was to call women “miss” unless corrected, along with other proper manners from decades before me. The idea that it’s important to respect people and address them in the way that helps them to be comfortable is what the real takeaway is, but it’s tough to shake those habits sometimes.

Water Quality Fees Board Approves Addition of Tree Canopy Scoring Component to Stormwater Quality Projects Incentive Grants - The Lexington Times (lexingtonky.news)

This change happened a few months ago now, but the aspects of the change - incentives for increasing tree cover and the reduction of impervious surfaces in watersheds - are the kind of policy changes we can work to have instituted where each of us are. In addition, including tree planting projects in these programs and giving...

LallyLuckFarm, (edited )

What really concerns me is that the children who will be subjected to this will not be the ones with parents who are willing or able to deal with conflict in healthy ways. How many of them, I wonder, saw school hours as an opportunity to be safe from physical harm but no longer have that security? How much additional suffering will come from that, knowing what we do about the role of physical safety, bodily autonomy, and generally not feeling under threat as they relate to educational success. What guarantees or recourse are available to the parents and children who don’t opt in but are still among those who find it acceptable and appropriate to hit a child?

Those of us who were on the receiving end of emotional or physical abuse from adults we trusted know all too well how these types of behaviors can change the entire trajectory of someone’s life.

LallyLuckFarm, (edited )

I agree with you, but also respectfully disagree at the same time. I agree because they are perfectly able to choose a path that isn’t cruel, (that’s always an option) but disagree because sometimes they aren’t entirely - whether due to a lack of experience in healthy resolutions, or problems in their own lives, or some combination of those or other factors. It doesn’t excuse the abuse, at all, but they are contributing factors in the patterns of it.

Just as an example: my severely alcoholic grandmother used to beat the snot out of my father, and he never learned any healthy parenting skills from her or my grandfather. He didn’t use coat hangers to beat me like she did to him, because that was barbaric, but belts were acceptable tools in his mind. He quite literally did not have the framework to understand that it was essentially the same thing from other people’s perspectives, or morally unacceptable; he didn’t have the toolkit to manage his stressors and build better behavior patterns for most of my childhood. Having seen his journey (and my own) I find that I’m empathetic for the effort it takes to break this kind of generational cycle of violence even as I find the actions of abusers reprehensible.

I’m saddened that Missouri has chosen to normalize and promulgate more violence against children instead of investing that kind of effort into actually improving the lives of its citizens. I’m editing my parent comment to add something that I hope will show that I understand the agency that these parents, educators, and lawmakers have when making these decisions (because you’re right, they do).

LallyLuckFarm,

I understand why it’s confusing, but trauma changes how the brain works and once those neural pathways are created reinforcement becomes much more likely. Once everything is a fight-or-flight event it’s very hard to break free. Even now, decades later, I have a habit of over explaining as a defense mechanism just to proactively defuse potential misunderstandings (not always perfectly but I’m glad we’re having this conversation) both online and afk. Not everybody gets the opportunities to adapt and recover the way I did, so it feels important to respond with empathy for them.

Is discussing our runs appropriate for this community?

I just went for my run. And wanted to talk about it with some of my new social connections here on the threadiverse. I used to run a lot. Like a lot a lot. 100 miles a week sometimes. I was a long distance specialist trying to qualify for Olympic marathon trials. Injuries and old age have ended that chapter of my life and I...

LallyLuckFarm,

I have no issues with posts like this in this group, as long as there’s a connection to nature in the post and ensuing discussion. There are qualitative differences between running through natural settings and those full of concrete and blacktop, and I feel as though this is an appropriate avenue for folks to explore that.

Additionally, there had been interest during the last round of community suggestions for an “Outdoors/Hiking” type community. While there wasn’t enough to get the green light, several mods felt that this corner of Beehaw would be an appropriate forum for those posts until there’s enough engagement around those for their own community. If a post is more about technical aspects of running, you may be asked to post in https://beehaw.org/c/sports instead.

LallyLuckFarm,

I don’t care to devote mental effort to understanding why a company would intentionally remove revenue streams (particularly after years of withholding them from 3PA users) right before an IPO and right after the CEO has publicly stated that the company is not profitable. I’d say GLHF but with enough sarcasm to curdle milk.

LallyLuckFarm,

I had hoped some folks who are more into houseplants would comment; one gardening author I really respect is Alan Toogood, who’s written books like Indoor Gardens: Living with Plants, House Plants, and Care of House Plants in addition to many others. All of his books I’ve read have left me impressed, informed, and confident to practice the skills he’s covered.

LallyLuckFarm,

A likely culprit may be stinkbugs feeding if they’re common in your area. The wounds on the fruit don’t look like hornworm or fruit worm damage I’ve seen. There may be other egg-laying pests in your region, so if anything is off about it inside the fruit please don’t eat it.

LallyLuckFarm,

Friendly mod reminder not to eat things on the advice of strangers on the internet.

How are you able to cook while working full time through the week? Do you have some kind of strategy? How do you plan your food?

We want to break out of this cycle of ordering delivery but at the same time, cooking everyday has been a challenge. We also have been trying to develop some sort of routine where we meal prep on the weekends but we live in an apartment with a really small kitchen so cooking and storing food for 5 days doesn’t seem doable....

LallyLuckFarm,

We’ve got a tiny kitchen and a ¾ fridge - it can fit a pizza box if nothing’s in the door. We’ll do things like casseroles, or make enough pasta to fill a casserole dish just small enough to fit in the fridge for leftovers after meal 1. Salads can stretch them further and make each one different enough, and meals of something else in between switches it up quite nicely. A few minutes with some sealable bags and some dressings/condiments around can make marinades easy to make and to store in the freezer. Sunday is our usual meal prep day to prep some containerized lunch for the week while the other gets a dinner made to make leftovers ready to cook.

Everyone around us raises chickens so eggs are easy to come by. There’s usually a quiche or two in the freezer in case we need a quickish meal and are both feeling too lazy for anything else.

LallyLuckFarm,

What what? Chicken butt

LallyLuckFarm,

That’s super neat! Do those require as much time to mature as D. virginiana do?

LallyLuckFarm,

My experiences match @baseless_discourse’s in that they may be too far gone. That said, it would be worth giving them some additional water, some shade for the hottest part of the day, and maybe some light-colored mulch around the bases. Having them so close to the house may be creating a warmer microclimate, which can be tough on young peppers. Looking at the tomato in the foreground, I suspect that there’s a case of not enough water - there’s a considerable amount of leaf curling going on.

LallyLuckFarm,

Just curious: by pollinator plants you mean pollinator attractors around your single pepper plant, correct? You may wish to use blooms that go to seed right before your peppers bloom. There’s lots of advice out there about planting flowers to get pollinators in the habit of being in the space where your food plants are growing, but not as many sources that talk about the scheduling of it all. For the best mileage out of that kind of setup you generally want pollinator attractors > food plants > predatory wasp attractors (pollinator plants with big flower pads, like umbellifers).

LallyLuckFarm,

Hah I don’t mean to pressure you, I just spend a lot of time thinking about producing food from gardens. You’re totally right, though, it’s still early in the season, and if your garden is providing you joy, then it’s doing its job!

I’m … not great at the timing of it all, but we do stage early ephemerals around our earliest flowering fruit trees and shrubs. Once the season gets going it’s difficult to get just one thing to be in flower so we often leave high summer as its own free for all.

LallyLuckFarm,

True story: I’m required to take the dog plant shopping so I can only carry half as much out.

LallyLuckFarm,

Last February. SAD was hitting real hard, way worse than recent years, so the wife sent me off to San Diego to see my best friend. Must have been the vacation that was supposed to happen, because his roommate was a tattoo artist who had an opening that week and had been looking to do a botanical piece for someone. So now I carry around my favorite plant in all its summer glory everywhere I go.

LallyLuckFarm,

Do you grow the Guadua too? Or does it grow wild around you? Either way, I love the smart use of available materials!

LallyLuckFarm,

Thank you for all your hard work!

LallyLuckFarm,

As someone who has needed a friend's couch to crash on during periods of instability, just in order to keep other portions of life from falling apart too, I think what you're doing fits well.

LallyLuckFarm,

Hey, no need to apologize! Looking at your comments and the plants I think you're on the right track - they look to be Bromeliads (air plants) to me. Those rely on having light to moderate shade and some moisture in the air in many cases. I'd consider having a small spray bottle handy to mist it occasionally, and possibly look to relocate it to a spot that gets less direct sunlight.

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