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skinnylatte

@skinnylatte@hachyderm.io

Queer Southeast Asian in California working on #civictech. I lead the product team at San Francisco Digital Services.

I shoot film, ride steel bikes, learn jazz piano and saxophone, make prints in darkrooms and look at birds and mushrooms. I also really like coffee. And tea. And food. Sometimes, I have opinions on all of those things.

#BelieveInFilm #FilmPhotography #BikeTooter #TootSea #SF #SFBA #Food #Photography

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Just thinking about how in so much of traditional southeast Asian society there’s such an emphasis on bodywork. Not even about going to a paid massage place, but also like family friends or community massage people who might come by and give you a massage. They’re so often as skilled as so many professional body workers I know, and touch is so important. I feel so far removed from that way of life (when it was all I knew, not too long ago).

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Finding it difficult to reconcile the idea of ‘massage as luxury’ in the western world with ‘everybody just needs a massage sometimes and it’s not an unreasonable thing to want or get’

Anyway I’m really good at it because I was always the massage giver and I actually enjoy it!

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@GeePawHill that’s so lovely!

skinnylatte,
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@GeePawHill what a combination. Made in heaven

skinnylatte, to random
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When most people get massages, they’re generally looking for a relaxing time.

When I get a massage, I’m looking to be the subject of some pretty serious karate moves.

Anything less than that is simply outrageous to pay for.

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@meganL I once went to a guy in Hong Kong whose whole thing was beating you with the back of his hand. He was so strong it sounded like he was beating metal poles together. Not my style but it was pretty effective. I prefer fascia work where they dig deeper into relieving knots

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@zachklipp there.. may be places in sf I can introduce you to

skinnylatte, to random
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Just passed a dog social club.

Whatever that means

https://www.dogppl.co/

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@SnoopJ it was PACKED (with humans and dogs)

I think it’s just ‘private dog park with booze’. More of the same privatization of facilities

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@SnoopJ yep

skinnylatte,
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@alanb with booze, and without poor people :)

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@betsyvr it was PACKED

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This is only slightly worse than the dog businesses you see somewhere like silver lake. Where it’s often ‘crystals and healings.. for your dogs!!’ Douchey private dog clubs meh but new age stuff for dogs, god no and if they weren’t rich people they’d all be charged with animal abuse

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I truly believe that being #ActuallyAutistic in Singapore was both (1) a terrible, awful experience and (2) a blessing, because it shielded me from the worst of its social expectations. Because while I knew there were plenty of expectations, I never knew what they were, and even if I did I would never have been able to adhere to them.

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I also know that all of my privileges in Singapore afforded me the space and room to opt out of many of those expectations. That ties in into the deeper ‘in Singapore you can be queer / weird / whatever’ thing I feel so strongly, with the caveats ‘if you’re Chinese / middle class or rich / conventionally successful’, that I wasn’t always aware of until I left it.

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My school experience was mostly ‘I hate this’ and teachers going ‘poor dear, sit by yourself and do whatever you want,’ which I know is not the same experience that other autistic people have there. I think it’s improved some, but it’s still really rough.

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@everyday_human pros and cons. I’m very homesick of course but I also feel it was the right move to leave and expand my horizons. It’s extremely comfortable, very cosmopolitan and very provincial at the same time. There’s more awareness of autism now but still largely spoken of in the ‘it’s a disease that needs to be overcome’ positivity mindset that I hate

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i miss reading restaurant reviews on people's blogs. i hate reading them in google maps / yelp. absolutely no personality. maybe i'll go back to posting restaurant reviews on my own blog as well

skinnylatte,
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one time i reviewed an italian restaurant in malaysia

i was like

this is terrible

and then the italian owner came into my comments and said, you only think it's not good because you're asian and you don't get italian food at all

and i was like

your nonna will be ashamed of you for telling the world this is what italian food is when i know it's better

this is why you should blog restaurant reviews (he closed a few months later. at that point kl already had better italian spots)

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@grumpasaurus these two are my fave sg ones

https://johorkaki.blogspot.com/

https://eatbma.blogspot.com/

skinnylatte,
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@CStamp I remember this! So bad

skinnylatte, to vegan
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I haven’t loved the vegan sushi in the Bay Area, but I’ve learned that’s not because it’s vegan but because it’s not fancy enough :) (I’m very spoiled and I only like fancy sushi)

Check out this place in LA!

https://www.kusakila.com/

https://maps.app.goo.gl/rQ8ZaxSuDjivbwuz8?g_st=ic

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@ChasMusic I don’t have high hopes for restaurant websites!

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I’m interested in a lot of transit activism in N America but I swear people would think you’re a total weeb if you talk about transit in places with good transit. Trying to imagine talking to people in Singapore or Hong Kong or Seoul about.. loving trains

I think they would back tf away from me and run away.

Like my friend always says ‘I don’t want to be a transit fan. I just want great transit’

skinnylatte,
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@civicDetroitDan I love tehsiewdai’s work! (His handle means tea, less sugar hahah)

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@fdr Taiwan has a significantly higher traffic fatality rate than Singapore and Hong Kong but lower than Seoul. That’s largely because outside of Taipei the infra isn’t as developed. There’s high speed rail but there’s not a subway yet in Tainan as they do in Taipei. I find it much more pleasant to cycle / motorbike in but not as a pedestrian.

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At a large LA park:

  • kids! Playing softball
  • grandpas and grandmas! Walking around, talking to friends, playing Chinese opera loudly
  • people of many diverse backgrounds and ages

Just some simple things I miss about real cities. San Francisco feels like a very weird, hollowed out city on many fronts. I think if I see a bunch of kids at once in SF I’ll be like ‘wow’. Outside of certain SF neighborhoods (Chinatown, Mission, TL), the city just feels very homogenous and bland to me :/

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@sfpodge and Chinese bbq (Do Eat) and fish tacos when they reopen (Chicano Nuevo)

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