Obviously, the difficulty with very niche communities not being useful here can be annoying.
And, being real, the lack of robust moderation tools makes moderating a pain in the ass.
But, overall, I find the people on lemmy less prone to bad behavior, and the discussions more rewarding. That makes up for the underlying missing functional things worth it.
Reddit, even before they went full asshole as a company, had the major problem of being big. Humans are assholes for the most part. The more people you have, and the lower the bar for entry, the more of those assholes are going to be a problem.
Lemmy has assholes too. The usual knee jerk reactionaries, trolls, and that sort of thing. But the very minor extra effort of having to pick an instance reduces how many of the brain dead assholes will put in the effort. The assholes are a better quality of asshole lol.
But damn, there were some long established communities on reddit that simply can’t be reproduced here because you can’t make old communities. There are a ton of subs that had been around since subs came around. You can’t duplicate that kind of organic growth. There’s very few C/s on lemmy that have a real sense of community yet. I think it’ll happen, but it hasn’t had time for a lot of real cultures to spring up the way reddit had.
I miss the hell out of those long established neighborhoods.
I do wish that media coverage would stop calling it a regrowth drug. It might get there eventually, but that’s not what it is, and it causes issues with people misunderstanding medical science.
Legit, in the real world, wolverine’s healing factor is the most useful. Other stuff is about tricks. His kind of healing means no cancer, no Alzheimer’s, no strokes, no heart attacks, nada. A long, healthy life free of disease of almost any kind.
The only drawback is the semi-immortality. A long life watching others die would suck hard. It’s already bad enough with a regular life span.
Cover your ass, then follow orders. The job is, whether anyone likes it or not, to do what a supervisor tells you. If the supervisor is an idiot like yours, that doesn’t change. Do the job, cover your ass, and hope for the best.
I found some by klim that have been very durable so far. Something like five years and no issues. Well built, come with their own case. Wired buds. Sound can be a bit muddy for music, but not unbearable. In calls, they’re great.
Bluetooth wise, check out tozo. They do respectable buds on a budget. Not the best sound, but acceptable, and their mics pick up decently. Battery life is decent.
Back to wired, if you can find a sale, the tin t2 model is damn good sound for the price range. You usually have to be patient to get the 50 price point, or go used. But they really do sound great on a phone with a decent DAC. But that’s sound only, no mic.
You know, it actually could, but it never will because pandering is safer, and that’s essentially what it does.
Switch the menu up for more updated country cooking. Keep the vibe by leaning hard into americana music playing, and converting most of the bullshit store space into something you could fit a small bluegrass ensemble in. Have live music on weekends, and use the rest of the store space to promote local music as well as products that support local crafts rather than the mass produced shit they usually cram in.
Maybe do a weekly country cooking lesson, or maybe stories and history, again leaning hard into local lore over general, but not skipping general american bits entirely.
And, ffs, don’t be douchey about employees. Fucking treat them with respect. There’s worse chains to work for, but it ain’t great as it is.
You’d still pull some of the older crowd that comes for the kitschy bullshit, but if the food is good and the atmosphere welcoming, you’ll also bring in more than just the Sunday school crowd. Because, damn. Good southern/country food is hard to come by sometimes. And they’ve stopped doing that kind of food right. They actually used to have good food. But somewhere about fifteen years ago, it changed. Don’t know what happened behind the scenes, but the food went to shit.
One of the purposes of jewelry is to enhance looks. It can serve to draw attention to specific features.
Now, there is a disclaimer needed here. I’m hetero. So I have no sexual attraction to the male form. However, I’ve dabbled in multiple forms of art, and used to jang around weight rooms with some bodybuilders among the mix. So you either learn to appreciate the male form or you GTFO of both of those PDQ.
Necklaces can very much enhance a chest/torso. It’s all about the kind of necklace. Understated is usually best. A single pendant, with the chain/string/whatever being are the right length is going to pull the eyes to the center of the chest most of the time. This can be a very good thing. You adjust the length to match where you think that extra attention is going to give the best visual, and you’ve succeeded in jewelry.
Even a very fine chain can also give a visual break. Depending on the hair situation, chests can actually be boring to look at. A lot of hair, and it’s a visual sameness just like a total shave is. You need light and shadows, variances in tone. If you don’t have that naturally, you can supply it with jewelry (works with piercings too, btw). I’m a fucking sasquatch, and there’s more visual interest when I’m wearing even something utilitarian (a keychain sized flashlight is damn handy on a chain) rather than jewelry.
So I’m not surprised you prefer the looks when wearing your necklace. Makes total sense.
Now, sexy is as sexy does. If someone is into necklaces as a paraphilia, or just as a mild nicety, you can’t really judge whether the jewelry makes you look better or not. Most people I’ve ever heard talk about male jewelry at all leaned towards a little being enough, rather than any specific type.
But, yeah, I’ve seen enough dudes shirtless to have the opinion that a tasteful piece hanging somewhere on the sternum is sexier than without, most of the time. Doesn’t turn me on, but that’s not necessary to have an opinion about sexiness per se.
For me, it was an inability to only finger strings properly, even after about six months of practice. My hands, even back in my teens, were huge. That includes big fingers (size 14 ring at the time)
Since I didn’t have the freedom to try other instruments in a useful way, I just decided I had better things to do with my time than fuck around making dissonant sounds on a guitar.
But, before you give up entirely, maybe try learning a simple song all the way. That was what actually made my decision. I knew what it was supposed to sound like, knew where my fingers were vs how the strings were supposed to be used, and knew I’d never make the music that drove me to want to try in the first place.
If you can manage to learn one song and play it to the point you can tell what you’re playing, I say keep going. From that point, it’s a matter of practice and figuring out what lessons work for you.
But it is a learning curve that kills a lot of potential players of any instruments. I hang with an old high school friend that fronts a band. I’ve had this conversation with him (and he reached the same conclusion I did after teaching me a little on both tenor and bass guitar, that I might so something, but it wouldn’t be what I wanted) about getting past that wall.
He said that in person lessons are the best way to get past the initial “what the fuck is going on” stage where nothing seems to work. A lot of people pick up a book, or watch videos and try to get going. But those methods don’t work for everyone. So you kinda need someone that can give active feedback on all the little things that go into learning your first song.
And that’s what he says the goal should be; you pick a simple song, learn it, and then improve on it. Takes a few weeks for a lot of people to get something like amazing grace or Mary had a little lamb down to the point that it sounds right. But you have to start simple because you’ve got to get your hands used to the job. It can take a thousand plus repetitions of a given action to commit it to memory in a way it becomes fluid and natural (which is a thing in martial arts, btw, you have drill the hell out of a technique before you can spar with it).
But it’s also okay to give up. It’s your time, your energy. If you’ve discovered that the return on that isn’t fast enough to give you what you want/need, why waste part of your life banging against the wall? Sometimes a learning curve isn’t worth climbing.
Legit, I don’t fudge rolls because it’s not fun for me.
If a roll would fuck up the session/adventure/campaign, I just straight up tell the players I’m making a call and override the results. It doesn’t happen often, and it’s really only when rng just screws things, like when you get multiple nat 1s in a session, way out of line with what makes sense without some kind of gymnastics to explain things in game.
Dang. I had forgotten how bland early bloom county was. I was pretty young at the point in time this was published, but just barely old enough to be able to read the funny papers. I loved bloom county, but I think my mind latched onto the later stuff more.