Such a long day’s travel yesterday, winding up with a family dinner, when all I wanted was to unpack, shower & go to bed. Managed to excuse myself from the conversation to do just that. Yay me! @actuallyautistic
So am I! I have worried too much about doing the “right thing” in the past. The others were not at all put out. I even had an offer to come and scrub my back in the shower. Someone else suggested we could carry on the conversation in the bathroom. Thankfully that didn’t happen. 😁
@Susan60@actuallyautistic
I guess there’s comfortable and then there’s waaaaay too comfortable 😆
I am so over “doing the right thing“ because it hardly ever is the right thing for me.
@CuriousMagpie@actuallyautistic I think that being ADHD & with milder sensitivity issues than some autistic folk, I’ve been able to mask & push through enough times with no or relatively mild immediate consequences. That’s why I’m so late to the party, but with anxiety, depression & those tension related physical health issues.
@Susan60@actuallyautistic It seems that we also mask/push through what we think are mild immediate consequences but are actually building up to major impacts when we just can’t do it any longer.
I think that as we age we often look back in wonder at some of the things we’ve managed to do. But I can’t help but wonder if that’s more common amongst late diagnosed/realised autistic people? I don’t regret any of the more significant things I’ve done, but I think that constantly masking & putting some of my needs low on my list of priorities has definitely taken a toll. How heavy I’m not sure. What matters now is that adjust & care better for myself.
@Susan60@actuallyautistic I agree - understanding the past is important, and using it to move into a more satisfying future is the white point (for me anyway 🙂)
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