@actuallyautistic The hardest part of my job as a manager is leading the team meeting each week. I'm really good with all of my employees one on one, but I am awkward and anxious when presenting to the whole group at once.
My team is fully remote, so the team meeting is over the phone. Everyone puts themselves on Mute so I can talk, which makes it worse because I don't hear any reactions, no laughs for my jokes, no nothing.
Every week after the meeting, I am pacing and muttering to myself about how bad I am (I work from home, so no one sees this). Hopefully my team thinks I have it together, but this meeting is just crushing for me.
@VeeRat@actuallyautistic Presiming you are doing well and being appreciated is an important service you are providing your team. They won’t or can’t help you with that. They need you to “be confident” (even if you aren’t). You just need to pretend, even to yourself.
Also, I very much recommend booking and blocking out time to be kind to yourself after that meeting. Schedule a call with a soothing friend, listen to an album, watch a treat movie. Running those meetings can be traumatic, and you should know that you are going to have a pleasant recovery afterward. Every time. Don’t just stew and worry. Take care of yourself so you can take care of your people.
@VeeRat You may not believe me but you're almost certainly doing great at it. We're always harder on ourselves than anyone else is.
Now if I had any advice on how to be less hard on yourself, that might actually be useful... 🤷♀️
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