Very similar thing happened to me & posting habits, when I came over to the Fediverse in November's #TwitterMigration. A genuinely social place is a huge change from corporate social (& I observed a large de-tox bonus personally, especially from Twitter).
I don't know. I find this refreshing. I had been a major lurker on reddit but here it feels like its truly a community, but maybe that's the novelty of it.
It's not even a matter of remembering for me. People I have known for years whose name I did not forget.... yeah, my brain will just decide nope, today we don't know their name. It's so dumb.
I got a list that I purposefully set up to grow. It’s not a to-do list… It’s a “might do” list. When things get messy in my to-do list, I move those items to the might-do list.
Having 100 undone items on that list isn’t a shameful thing, it means I said “no” to all those items (either actively or passively) and I try to celebrate that.
Multiple lists. Short-term, medium-term, long-term, “maybe eventually”. If one of them starts to feel like too much, I can kick some things down to the next one.
They’re also kinda based on how much focus will be needed to complete things, not just how important or time-sensitive things are. The medium/long lists are mostly stuff for “good brain days”.
I spoke to my GP/PCP about thinking I have ADHD, and they gave me 2 options. Either prescribe me meds or refer me to a specialist.
I went to a specialist who then administered me like 4-5 different tests/discussions. And they were able to tell me their perspective of if I had it or not
The therapist might be able to help run you through some of those tests, and they might be able to sniff out if you’re bored or overstimulated instead. In either case, I would come to the first meeting open minded and have overarching goals and bullet points you would like to go over and take the discussion from there
I didn't get diagnosed until my 30s too. I had the same feeling too. I was scared they'd think I was just seeking meds. I talked with my dr for a good 30 mins, unheard of honestly... and explained to her the way I've felt all my life... she got me a survey and she said after I finished it that she already knew she was going to treat me before the survey based off of our conversation. For me anxiety and adhd are one in the same. The meds allow me to stay focused for at least 6-8 hours at my current dose. It's incredible. Best of luck. Just be honest. You know yourself better than anyone else. I also explained my anxiety which I think helped the awkwardness of my conversation.
I'm hoping that I won't need meds at all and there's an approach where I can just use therapy to help me understand myself and how I can manage my bad habits.
What's frustrating is that I took some tests when I was younger but they were administered by someone in my family who actively was hoping I wouldn't have ADHD and therefore wouldn't need meds - so that confused me a bit... unless they were right and I'm potentially an anxious mess instead. But anxiety might be it's own meds 🤪. Still would like to avoid it.
Be open to it if you are diagnosed. My life changed drastically for the better in ways that habits or awareness could not have helped - lack of fatigue, depression gone, able to actually start things (activation energy), etc. ADHD is a difference in how our brains function and it’s hard to out habit a brain that is determined not to work the way it “should”.
Should also note the meds are different now than when we were kids.
Vyvanse changed my life. Without it, my career would have stagnated and my marriage would likely be over. I was diagnosed in my early 40s. I didn't realize how many of my issues stemmed from the frustration caused by being forgetful, procrastinating, aggressive, etc. The meds, along w/ years of therapy, help me manage my brain. I'm still the same person w/ many of the same issues but I am able to manage them much better. I'm not saying meds are for everyone. But be open-minded. Realize that ADHD is just like any other disease or disorder. You would take meds for diabetes or high blood pressure. It is the same thing.
I appreciate that perspective. They aren’t bad habits, they are different habits… and they work better in certain scenarios too. Convert those mannerisms to superpowers I say.
For your first session, don't expect much more than just getting to know each other a bit, talking a bit about your goals and where you're at. See if you vibe with them. It's one of those interpersonal things that you can't really objectively measure. Relax, feel them out as a person. As to self diagnosis: i think with a new therapist there's a bunch of fundamentals before you get to those more significant issues. Once you do, be honest and open. Tell them you suspect you may have something like it and why you think that way and they should take it from there. But honestly, don't expect too much from a first chat.
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