Sure let's chat! Non-binary transgender person here.
> Not bc I was taught to be afraid but bc I’m a survivor of domestic violence.
Isn't that still about panic and fear and safety though? Being conditioned by your trauma?
It seems that the issue is that you prefer to not use a multi stall bathroom, but what does that have to do with your visual assessment and assumptions of other people's gender?
What about gender non-conforming women? You must be this feminine to pee?