I’m gonna have to disagree on presentation and orientation being unrelated to gender. Not only do those things influence each other, but one’s presentation (which includes more than how you dress) and orientation can be one’s gender. Think of people who use butch, femme, bear, etc as their genders, or people who are arogender.
This limited view of “gender, presentation and orientation are different” only work to explain cishet people that a gay man isn’t less of a man for liking men. But it cannot and should not stop us from seeing how for many queer people not being straight/cishet affects the way they relate (or not) with the binary system, that there are gay men that see their manhood as influenced by their gayness, thus different from binary straight manhood.