You are such a dipshit tool. The rudeness is on the person being rude, somehow such a simple concept is beyond you, because you’re twisting it around so forcefully.
I get the impression that you’re a sorry incel type that goes out of their way to white knight women online. I bet dollars to doughnuts that if OP said “a lovely young man” instead of “lady” you’d be raging against the idea of asking to have someone’s seat. Foaming at the mouth that guys should leave people alone at tables they paid money to sit at.