Losing Things Evokes a Physical Stress Response

ADHD person here. And I’m just so drained from spending hours meticulously looking for (essentially) $20.

It’s not about money — I’ll live without the $20. I’ve just lost so many important things in my life so many times that it drives me absolutely fucking insane. Seething, heart thumping, muscle flexing rage.

And what makes things worse is that I take measures to prevent this from happening. So when I still lose things, the failure just cuts twice as deep.

Not looking for any solutions atm. Just venting to folks who might get it while I physically recover and let the loss go. Thanks all.

Lupieblue,

I feel you. I am currently looking for a lost deodorant stick that I use every day. Luckily I had a trial size backup, Still looking … it has been three days,

OdinsonThor,

It’ll drive me crazy when I find a place to put something that makes sense, so it goes there so I don’t lose it, only to forget where it made sense a week ago and end up losing it anyway

DJDarren,

For me it’s the forgetfulness around this that really grips my shit.

I lose things because I forget where I’ve put them, or I forget what I was doing when I last had them. My brain just goes off on its own little track, regardless of what I need it to do, then BAM, I can’t find something that my wife is asking me for.

Completely randomly yesterday, I interrupted something she was saying to me to blurt out where I put the cats’ Dreamies, because I suddenly remembered that I’d put them in an out of the way place so they wouldn’t get to them and tear the packet up. If I’d waited until she’d finished talking, I’d have forgotten, then we’d never have found them again.

douglasg14b,

Yessss

How about forgetting words? I’m in a profession where trust of your intelligence & knowledge is rather important to “getting shit done”. And nothing tanks your reputability then stumbling mid conversation/explanation/argument because you forgot words and terms…

It’s super frustrating, and sometimes I spend over an hour trying to find the word.

DJDarren,

I’m actually quite lucky in the sense that my mind works at 100 mph when it comes to thinking up the words I want to say. It’s like playing a really stressful video game sometimes, where I’m not entirely sure what words I need until I get to them, but they’re almost always there when I get there.

Meanwhile, when it comes to doing productive work, I just sit and stare at my computer screen…

douglasg14b,

Ha, I’m the opposite. I can hammer out productive work, but can’t remember words. Or rather, my brain runs at 100mph in circles around a word, and never actually grabs the freaking word 😅

DJDarren,

When our forces combine, we become: Average Human, Completer Of Tasks!

douglasg14b,

Needs a midjourney image generated for it, vanilla superhero themed.

DJDarren,

Puts me in mind of the sadly defunct blog, Superuseless Superpowers, which I used to love back in the day.

gooddaytodayhere,

This drives me absolutely mad. I find it so frustrating and I have to work so hard not to continuously beat myself up over it

jmd1138,

Feels like this happens to me once a day with something. If I’m particularly manic I will obsess, I will cancel plans, I’ll ruin my entire day looking said thing.

dxcz,

Oof. The palpably awkward moments I’ve created cause so much cringe in hindsight. Adrenaline (?) is a helluva drug.

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