Nothing builds your conviction in yourself more than when you build something by yourself that works and is both useful and original.
So I'm going to focus more on learning to build now. Have curated enough.
That no matter what anyone says or does to you or feels about you, nothing will change the fact that you have the ability to make something out of nothing, which is both useful and original all by yourself. No one can take that away from you. No one.
Realized this while chatting with a friend who said
"You have to learn and complete things, and in doing so you’ll have those achievements and accomplishments to look back on and build a conscious (and subconscious) foundation of confidence"
"Second to that is reducing the things in your environment that would discourage you, or encourage you to start comparing yourself to others instead of the “you from yesterday.” That might mean curating your social environment (digital or otherwise) to reduce those things"
Whatever happens in life you can look back and anchor yourself by "I built that, that I can make that"
@impactology I too love making things, 10 out of 10, would recommend.
But also, as someone who has struggled to deal with shame around not finishing things, I think it's worth interrogating the need to complete everything.
I have come to really value being able to spend time interested in a process or skill, playing with it, enjoying it, whether or not produce something.
It's nuanced; I still dislike wanting to produce a specific thing, working towards it, and flaking out.
@esnyder as a person without formal credentials (I am a college dropout) and external validation, I've realized for me, that's the only way to actually cement confidence
But you do have a point, I'm happy you've figured out a way for yourself.
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