@kelidanovus@Impossible_PhD Once again Zoe hits the nail on the head. I'm pretty sure this is (part of) where I went wrong with my mother. I came from a place of fear & shame, which was far more about my relationship with my mother than being trans.
I was going to need a "do-over" anyway (since she's just trying to pretend she can just ignore things), and this article is so helpful.