I'm part of a group doing a presentation on my workplace's Diversity and Inclusion policies and practices, and it turns out that half of the people in the group with me didn't know that I'm trans, despite me being openly and proudly so.
I used to say that I wanted to be able to "cis pass" so that I could take control of my own narrative, but moments like this remind me that I don't think I will ever truly control it...
@ada completely different experience but somehow I can relate.
I'm half black (mum's black) and half white (dad's white) which makes me mixed ethnicity.
But I can pass for white. More so with age. That means in such racist country as Spain I can now enter any shop unbothered while JUST fifteen years ago I couldn't leave any shop without the buying recipe on my hand or the immediate though of the, always racist, security guards is that I went in to steal something.
Is like a doble edge sword, I do enjoy my passing but at the same time I shouldn't, I didn't win the battle, nor did it get any better for those who couldn't.
@maikel Yeah, that sounds similar. In my mind though, I was always going to be loud and proud, and it seems that I'm not as loud as I see myself as, because people can work with me for months and simply have no idea...
That's not visibility, that's not changing things or normalising things and it's not controlling my own narrative
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