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I think trans people should get thrown transition showers like brides and pregnant people get. All your friends come over to celebrate this big moment in your life, gift you things to start living your true gender, and just have a big party. Can we make that a thing?
I have been trying and failing to fill this hole in my heart since I realized I’m female. Usually fill it with cheap clothes. Like… I wanna force the process to be faster. But it just isn’t.
It’s not like we want to force it on anyone, you do whatever you feel like. But I like the idea, and I think many people would have really liked to have one.
I would have loved a party if I’d had a supportive environment when I started transitioning. I’ve known some trans men that threw “T” parties when they started HRT, complete with joke gifts like Man™ butt wipes and stuff like that.
Do you have supportive people now? It’s never too late for a party! I’d definitely go to a bridal shower if the bride couldn’t do it before getting married. I say go all out if you want one. Now is the time to go overboard in supporting trans people anyway, at least in my country.
It just seems a little silly to do it almost 20 years later, haha! Maybe in a few years I’ll do one when the amount of time I’ve spent post-transition is equal to the time I spent pre-transition.
Makes sense. If you do it and you feel like you want more people to come, let me know! Although if there’s music there’s a very good chance I will dance enough to seriously embarrass myself.
OK I know I just appeared here and that this is late but hear me out
You know that one magic trick where people disappear from a box or something?
If you wanna go really over the top, you could use that one so that they close the “casket” with you in your AGAB clothes and you can go change into something gender affirming for a dramatic reveal?
The idea is cool. BUT (warning opinion) I feel like that makes being trans something of a “better state” then being cis or something else. I felt this very strongly when I first heard about the whole LGBTQ+ thingy and thought that people are just celebrating themselves for being special little snowflakes. By now, I know that this is not true, but I always felt it to be a bit demeaning, that all of a sudden everyone -but- cis hetero people got celebrated for some reason. By now I’ve turned out to be trans, but I still think this way. I specifically find it a bit demeaning, that we got all these funky coloured sexuality flags, but the hetero one is just -black and white-. Like, the most boring thing ever.
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Wow I must really sound like some weirdo defending her opinion on some black and white stripes. Most controversial opinion to date!
Being trans is a better state than pretending to be cis. We can be proud and celebrate our achievements without having to consider the feelings of cis folks. Heterosexuals have several flags, if they don’t like one they can make more.
Pride isn’t a party telling you how special you are. It’s a reaction against living in a society that tells you that you should be ashamed of being queer and a rejection of shame.
All the Pride month ads in the world don’t undo having to evaluate whether or not it’s safe to be out at work, or if your spouse should be with you when checking out that one bedroom apartment you want to rent, or if your doctor is going to treat you differently (all things that have gone south for me when someone learned I was gay and trans).
We celebrate challenges overcome. We celebrate the things that make us unique. We celebrate our achievements.
We don't celebrate the things that come for free, or are easy. We don't celebrate things we all have the same, because why would we?
You might not get a banner, a party, or a cookie for being a cis-hetero person, but you probably have other challenges or unique features that are worth celebrating. You don't have to be included in everything to be included in anything.
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